I need advice from other cat lovers please
I have had cats every day of my life - never lived without them- sometimes 6- never less than 2.
However Tallulah is such a problem I need advice.Sorry - it is a long story
13 years ago we got her with her brother from CP. They were 5 months old & had been with another family before us who returned them as they were 'not suitable'.
They were lovely young cats & settled down well in the conservatory & were introduced to our other cats & all was fine until it came time to let them out on the garden. Mulligan was fine but Tallulah decided that she wanted to be an outside cat & only came back in at night to feed. We tried everything we could think of & eventually borrowed a cat trap from CP & caught her in kitchen one night & set her up in conservatory again & she was fine. Loved a fuss & was not distressed in anyway but as soon as we let her out again off she went.
This has continued on & off ever since - she comes in to eat- mainly at night, will sit near us in garden but not come up to us.
We lost Mulligan in June- by this time we only had the 2 of them. When he got ill she was started coming into sitting room in evening sometimes to sit on a chair but would not let us get too close to her- she ignored Mully completely.
A few weeks after Mully died we took on 3 rescue cats who are very friendly & settled well.
As soon as they arrived Tallulah went potty- she was using conservatory as 'her' space at night then & she refused to come in at all ( except late at night when cats were bedded down in conservatory - which is only place we could secure them )& we were in bed- she howled in the garden & finally we hardly ever saw her. Once they went outside she hung around a bit but would not have anything to do with them.
With the cold weather coming on & her getting older we decided to have a last try at making her comfortable so I caught her when she came in one night & settled her in conservatory with food , tray, toys etc & I have spent hours over the past 2 weeks going in to her sit with her. She is fine with me- comes up for a fuss, purrs, eats well & seems fine. It is warm & comfortable & she gives the impression of being very happy.
Yesterday I left the door open so she could get out into main house if she wanted to as obviously we don't want to lock her in all the time. She went out & came back late at night to eat. The cat flap was on 'in only' so she had to stay indoors. I had to put her back in conservatory as she was running round yowling & very unhappy. She settled in there straight away. She is currently in there asleep on sofa having had a big cuddle & breakfast.
Am I doing the right thing or should I just accept she is semi feral & let her get on with it- coming in when we are not around & living outside? It breaks my heart to think of her out in the cold when she could be in a warm house with loads of cat beds & company. I should add that I found ticks on her when she came in. I have a Feliway adaptor in there for her.
Any suggestions?
Adult early 30's - very difficult.
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