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Putting dog to sleep

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25Avalon Mon 28-Oct-19 17:33:42

I am so sad, I just keep crying. I have made the agonising decision to have my dear 13 and a half year old yellow lab put to sleep. She has been such a lovely dog, always wanting to please, would never steal food, wouldn't climb on the furniture and even opened doors with her nose rather than scratching.
About 2 months ago she started developing small lumps on top of her head, shoulders and sides and legs. These gradually get bigger and ulcerate. She has had needle aspiration and tumour biopsy which they are having to run extra tests on to discover what it is. She now has a large lump above her anus which keeps bleeding and causing her a lot of discomfort. The vet thinks it is histiosarcoma.
She doesn't want to play with her toys and there are somethings she no longer wants to eat, and spends most of the time either lying comatose or being very restless. She has the odd bright moment. I am not keen on steroids which aren't going to cure and would upset her if she wee-ed indoors or wanted to steal food. I have seen a holistic vet but I think things have moved too far for that to work I don't want to see her suffer so feel euthanasia is the best option at home next Friday.
Why them am I plagued with doubts when I know this is the right thing to do? My husband can't understand why I am upset when "this is the only thing to do." My grown up 2 dds are very understanding. I just want to cry all the more.

Tedber Thu 31-Oct-19 18:00:21

Feel it so much for you. Hard decision to make. Most of us on here will have had to make that hard choice. All I can say is you have given her the best of times and now you are doing what is best for HER.

I have experienced it with several animals. Never gets any easier. In fact my amazing mum died in January and I cried buckets and then my beautiful cat became ill in April and I had to make the decision to say goodbye to him. I cried even more (if that is possible!) I wrote on here and got a lot of support.

It is never easy but prolonging her life would only hurt her more.

Just be prepared to grieve as you do for anyone you have loved unconditionally for so long.

My thoughts are with you tonight xxxxx

jura2 Thu 31-Oct-19 18:02:44

heart goes out to you- but if you can afford it- get the vet to come to your home and hold the dog in his/her favourite place to avoid any stress <3

Loislovesstewie Sat 02-Nov-19 05:25:49

I just wanted to say that I am thinking of you .flowers

25Avalon Sat 02-Nov-19 11:55:14

Thank you Loislovesstevie and everyone else. It was the right thing to do as the test results came back that she had aggressive tumours and would have died a very painful death if we had not had her put to sleep. She was stoical and tried so hard to stay with us to the extent she hid so much of any pain. I feel relief that she is no longer suffering but the grief at missing her is enormous.

newnanny Sat 02-Nov-19 12:06:33

It is so sad and you feel uncertain because you love your dog and don't want to be without her. You are making the choice to stop her suffering. Your head knows it is right but your heart is heavy as it does not want to lose her. Give her a lovely last meal that she will enjoy and get vet to come to her. After our cat was put down at 17 years old we made a montage of photos and put in a nice frame and hung in hall and we buried him in the border in our back garden which was his favourite sunny spot to lie and sun himself in the garden.

Oopsminty Sat 02-Nov-19 12:09:15

25Avalon. I know exactly how you feel. It is heart breaking. Gut wrenching.

You made the right decision.

We are so lucky to have the unconditional love from our dogs. They bring such joy. The only problem is they just don't live long enough

Labaik Sat 02-Nov-19 12:41:28

At least you know 100% that you did the right thing. The emptiness when they leave us is awful because they have been a constant presence in our homes. flowers x

boodymum67 Sat 02-Nov-19 14:58:48

Of course you cry all the time and why not! This furry friend has given you so much love and loyalty over the years and is a trusted member of the family.

So many of us pet owners are forced to make that horrible decision, which makes us feel like murderers.

If only our beloved pets would just go to sleep by themselves and toddle off over the bridge to doggy or pussy cat heaven. But sadly that happens so rarely.

You are doing the right thing, as horrendous as it feels.

I`ve had to do the same myself, a few times...and I have such good memories of my best pals.

Take care love. xxxx

CocoPops Sun 03-Nov-19 02:37:24

Look after yourself. poppy poppy poppy

Fairviewtenby51 Mon 16-Mar-20 15:27:58

I.m sure you.know in your heart that it's the right time. My dear old dog Pongo had his last visit to our vets last October. It broke my heart but my vet said Pongo had kept on going just to please me.
I know it was the right time but I m still grieving.