Dog and wedding

I am sorry but you have been asked beforehand not to bring the dog .it's not a member of the family it's a animal put it in kennels and enjoy your son's big day xx

Wow, is this even real?

If you don't want to hear the answer, don't ask the question.

This is a joke right?
You cant be serious. Stop making your future DIL out to be the bad guy. You are being so unreasonable, you owe your son and DIL an apology.

Wow - 12 pages of posts about virtually everyone agreeing that the OP should NOT try to take her dog to her son's wedding. Usually its only political posts that gain this many replies. As for the OP - I hope she has got the point by now, I would never have considered having any pets at my wedding and I think the vast majority of people agree with that!

I had this with my AC wedding. My dogs have never stayed in kennels and all the people that were petsitters were at wedding (venue some way away with most staying for 2 nights). We were in a dog friendly room but were told not to take them as they didnt want us to take them for a walk during afternoon festivities, in fact they didnt want us moving away from party room at all. We had no intention of having them in pics just staying /sleeping in our room. Between wedding meal and evening do the bride disappeared for over an hour & would not have noticed if we had taken them out for a pee run, or gone for a pee ourselves! The whole wedding was orchestrated by a bridezilla and they sre still making demands and setting rules now gc are involved. I saud that I wasnt going to go and actually wish I hadn't it was not the most enjoyable day ever. Time spent with a dog/cat is never wasted, some humans though bah

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Mil brought her dog along to our wedding reception.

She was completly aware of my aversion to dogs, but insisted that her dog was included in the wedding photos.
Our wedding day was completely ruined!

I am now considering going NC (No contact)

Drop the idea of taking your dog. It’s one day. Find a dog sitter or take him to the kennels. Weddings are not for dogs.

I’m a dog owner. My son got married abroad so I sent her to a sitter for 10 days. She had a ball. Slept in the girls bed!! My daughter got married at loch Lomond (local) we had a suite and she came with us. She was willing walked by various wedding guests (myself included) and was one of three family dogs at the venue. Non of them were in the wedding pictures. I find that bizarre!

Sorry, x-posting earlier kiki2

Wow, just wow at your absolute cheek that your dog comes before your future daughter in law.

Only 2days but 275 posts * Urmstongran* !

Definitely do not take the dog unless you want a major fall out with her.

I don't know if anyone has suggested it as I've not had time to read the full thread but why not just get dressed up again a little while later for the doggy photos.

After all the pressure will be off and you will all be much more relaxed about it.

You are not being unreasonable. I had exactly the same problem in 2015 when my daughter got married at a venue 45 miles from where we live. It did get resolved amicably as the venue had cottages nearby and a few more up a lane so we stayed in one of them where the dogs couldn’t be heard if they barked (we have three dogs and actually my daughter has two)..
My daughters concern was she would hear barking as she made her vows (it was held in a stunning barn especially for the purpose of weddings).
Funnily enough 14 years earlier she had been a bridesmaid at my sister in laws wedding which was held at a lovely Inn just before Christmas. We took our dog with us and also looked after my sister in laws dog (both were large labradors) in a camper van we had driven down in. It was my then 13 year old daughter (the bridesmaid) who let them out and they run amok at the reception but luckily the bride thought it was hilarious and they ended up being in all the photos.
I can understand totally how you feel. I would never put our dogs in kennels as they are ‘rescues’ and would hate it. Maybe you could consider a dog sitter but better still can you not book a nearby dog friendly cottage to stay in and pop back every so often to see your dog? Probably bringing the dog to the wedding will cause drama so maybe not do that.
Let us know what you decide.

I'm not particularly a dog lover. I wouldn't hurt one and I do make a fuss of friends dogs even to the point of making dog coats when requested, but my friends know that I do not want their dogs in my home. This also applies to the only relative we have with a large, smelly, dribbling, loud, boisterous black Labrador.................IT IS NOT WELCOME IN OUR HOME! They don't bring the dog and would not dream of doing so.

It’s only 2 days Maw! Actually I’ve only just seen it.

Yes, you ABU. I have a much loved dog but she belongs within her controlled environment and is not imposed on others. I will admit I feel the same about children at weddings after experiencing quite a few ruined by bored, sometimes screaming, sometimes outrageously badly behaved small people. Dogs possess the same potential.

Of course you shouldn’t take the dog . It may be part of your family but it’s not part of theirs.
This is their day and it’s their decision.
Either put the dog in kennels or get a dog sitter.
Surely your son means more to you than your dog.

Why would you ever think that you could take a dog to a wedding? especially if the bride does not want this - It is her day after all.
I have dogs and always use a local kennels if invited to any social occasions overnight.
You may love your dog but lots of other people will not!!

Your next problem will be when they have a baby and they want the dog around the child.

Is this really still running?

I really love my dog she is my best friend.
But she is a dog and is treated like a dog. She doesn't sleep with me, eat with me or wear clothes.
She had a soft comfy bed and plenty of dog food. Regular walks running on the beach and muddy fields. Vet care whenever she's ill.
I don't share the dog food or vet. And she doesn't go everywhere with me all the time. Because she's a dog.
Find a kennel or dog sitter before you alienate your son and daughter forever.

Go on take the dog to the wedding .... just be prepared to never get another invite to anything!

The subject of this thread was quite clear from the title; I clicked on it with every expectation that the response would be YABU almost regardless of the circumstances. I was still amazed to find the OP was talking about disrupting her own son's wedding ?.

Your new DiL could be the kindest, most gracious person imaginable but if you go ahead with your utterly selfish plan what chance do you think there is of EVER being allowed access to any dgc when you have shown you cannot be trusted?

Like others, I suspect this thread is a wind up. I hope it is because if not I suspect you will become a very lonely person

Really??

I wouldn’t want a dog at my wedding either.