Dog and wedding

You could always renew your vows and then you could get the wedding photos with the dog you want so badly?

You are being silly, put the dog in kennels. He'll be fine.

Kiki2 Some people are nervous of dogs so that might be a consideration too. Hope you enjoy the day and find a happy solution.

I suspect someone @Kiki2 is sitting back and having a giggle at all the replies. This just can’t be real. In the extremely unlikely chance that this is real then I suggest that if your dog being in the photos means that much to you then you should marry your dog and bring your dog as your plus one!

Kiki Why are you so defensive? You asked advice and the posters gave it too you. Every poster thought your actions were wrong, it is not your wedding

Previous posts state that you don't always enjoy a good relationship with your children. I wonder why? You say your daughter always has to be right. Judging by this post and the links I read, it seems the apple did not fall far from the tree. I am only commenting on what I have read.

Kiki2 you know your dog. I trust your judgement. Gransnet love fuellng antidog comments. What ire’s me is this view that it is the brides day etc etc. this is not a social media occasion it is s family occasion. The point of a wedding is that two families publicly bond and show allegiance to each other show kindness and respect.
I wouldn’t have given a toss if my MIL wanted to bring her dog - in her arms I imagine. Have faith you lot. You’d think she was bringing an attack dog with her by the hysteria. Also dogs like to sleep a lot and always seem secure and happy in bed in car. So do your best Kiki2 both to feel happy on your sons wedding and not to upset his wife. Good luck. On looking at some old family photographs of weddings of my family many dogs are present. On peoples shoulders, passing in the street, no one bats an eyelid. We live in very unnatural superficial times when all that matters is the photo shoots as if celebrities and killer eyebrows

As a dog lover, I totally agree with all of the above. We took our dog to my daughters last Boxing Day, my SiL isn't a "dog person", though he said we could bring him. Our dog didn't behave well and pee'd against the christmas tree, never again!

Yes, you are being unreasonable. Put him in a kennel. he will be fine.

This really is not a problem! Find a dog boarder, this is where your dog would move in with another dog owner(after a meet and greet, for the duration of the nuptials, travelling etc. Charges are reasonable, approx. £20 per day, and you can ring from where your going to ask how it is going. No one uses kennels anymore. Mike

Lots of response. Not sure you will even get this far OP

As a total animal lover preferring them to many humans I can understand people not wanting to leave their dogs out! I would never have put any of mine in kennels so understand the reluctance there too but ... a wedding? Would never even think about it tbh even if the bride adored my dog!

We now have two much loved dogs in the family and we had to suss out a good reliable dog sitter for a family funeral. Sometimes you just have to be sensible?

But ... I kind of sense you know this .

Enjoy the wedding.

I would make some enquiries near the wedding venue and find out if there are any dog sitter/walkers who could look after your dog for the day.

I don't think they're being mean. It's their day and their wishes must be respected.

I am feeling sorry for Kiki, OP. She is obviously happy when with her dog, it is so important to her that being without her faithful companion seems unthinkable. Of course the posts are right, the request is to not take it, so the dog cannot cannot cannot go, even if it is a “member of the family”. The bride and the wedding couple decide what is appropriate for their day. But the longing Kiki has for the dog is real to her.

When my daughter married we arranged for our dog to stay with a dog sitter at her house. Our dog was perfectly looked after and we had peace of mind.

My dog would be petrified if I took him to any kind of social gathering. He'll be happiest in his crate in a quiet room on Christmas day, for example. I will spend time with him too, and take him outside, but just him and me. To be honest, leaving out spending time in a crate, I'll be happy getting away from the melee too! ??

I think you are being totally unreasonable. Sort the dog out, just for a few days, then enjoy yourself at the wedding.

Oh for Heaven's sake!! No of course a dog cannot go to the wedding even for a couple of photos. He/she would be much happier at home with a good dog sitter. If the couple both wanted it there OK but not for ceremony & only for a short while at reception.
I love my dog but I treat her as a dog not a child & some weddings don't want those there either!
It's their day!

Book your dog into kennels near to where you'll be staying for the wedding then you won't be parted from your beloved pet for longer than necessary but don't even consider taking the dog to the wedding, it's their wedding and they don't want the dog there, respect that. They'll be grateful to you for respecting their wishes.

Oh, and a decent photo shop can superimpose your dog onto the pictures later ?‍?

Whatever the subject , whatever the passions and strong feelings , it’s critical on a forum like this that we don’t just let rip , be rude or rant. You never know what someone’s circumstances are.

I once stood at a bus stop while an old lady chatted away non stop for more than 25 minutes. I was exhausted and could hardly raise a smile but nodded etc. As we got on the bus she said thank you love for listening - you’re the first person I’ve talked to in a month !! I felt a bit ashamed and never more grateful for my family and friends.

I’d also be thinking about your ongoing relationship with your DIL, and son for that matter if the issue is brought up again. Some of us, me included, absolutely love dogs. Others don’t. Respecting those who don’t means that we need to be sensitive about the choices we make, I’d never take my dog to visit anyone who actively, and for whatever reason, doesn’t like them. They also have a choice whether to come to my house which is the dog’s home, although I’d be happy to keep him in a separate room for a while. Once you’ve shown that you empathise with her, you stand a far better chance of a good, mutually understanding relationship. Something along the lines of “I really love to include my dog in everything, but I understand and I’m willing to compromise, if he/she makes you feel uncomfortable “.
Good preparation now could make all the difference in the future, especially if the pattern of little human feet might come along!
Wishing you all the best at the wedding ?

My daughter used to dog sit and has been asked a few times to take the dog to the church (but they are normally the bride or groom's dog) then back home after but as it is some distance away this may not be possible to arrange. Enjoy the wedding and keep the peace x

My son is getting married on New Years Eve, and not wanting to use kennels, I’ve arranged for a friends daughter too move in for the five days we’ll be away. She’s a student, and sitting here for 5 days,and getting 100 quid suits her nicely! Find a friend to sit at your place, then everyone is happy, simples!

I totally agree no dog at the wedding I would be the same under no circumstances would I take a do. Sorry if this upsets you.

Wow .This is a popular thread , and though late to it ,like others I thought it must be a joke. Then I remembered that many ( not all) dog owners cannot believe that not all people love their dogs as much as they do. It’s probably all been said on another thread and this one ( re entitlement in restaurants etc) and now a wedding? Perleeeeease!

Are you my Mum, Kiki? It’s the sort of thing she’d do, putting her needs before every one else without any thought of how it will impact on her relationships. No solution will ever do because she wants her way. YABVU.