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blondenana Sun 24-Nov-19 08:46:18

As some of you may have read,i lost my lovely little dog to dementia in August,
I am still very upset about it and misss her, it was suggested i find another, not to replace her of course but to help me cope with Lolas loss,and give me another reason to get up early and occupy me

I have got a poochon from another home, he needed a new home, because the lady was ill and husband works night so wasn't being taken for walk and needed more attention
He is lovely and called Luke apparently after Luke Skywalker as owner is a huge starwars fan
I would have got a rescue dog and did ring every rescue i could think of ,that i could get to fairlt easily, but there were no small dogs,and no guarantees that cats would be fine with them
I decided to see how he was being kept downstairs, for now at least, but came down to 3 puddles and some poo, luckily i have a laminate floor, but was thinking of carpeting my room again, thank goodness i didn't yet
My cats are as yet a bit spooked by him as he is quite young and bouncy, but i saw an ad with him laid with the owners cat which leapt out at me
Here are a couple of pics

sodapop Fri 29-Nov-19 16:05:53

Poor Patch, must have been a shock all round, sorry Fennel.

Fennel Fri 29-Nov-19 13:21:12

My Mum had a JR and he kept her going , for walks etc, in her last years.
She once took him with her to visit someone who had a 'gentle' labrador, which nearly killed poor Patch - picked him up by the scruff of the neck and shook him, breaking his neck.
Patch did recover, but didn't last long after that.

sodapop Fri 29-Nov-19 12:26:08

Yes they are bossy, noisy, domineering if allowed to be so. They are also lovable, loyal and great characters. They do need to learn who is in charge from an early age. Our JR is 14 now and we have had so much love and fun with him.

watermeadow Fri 29-Nov-19 12:18:48

What’s wrong with Jack Russells? My dog is only half JR but I bitterly regret that half. She’s the noisiest dog in the world and I’ve been battling to control the barking for over a year.
This hyper-active, 1000 decibel whirlwind dominates every aspect of my life and I can never have a day off because nobody else would put up with her.

sodapop Fri 29-Nov-19 08:57:04

I agree Yehbutnobut, exactly the way to go. It will take some time for them to get used to each other.
What is wrong with Jack Russells blondenana

Yehbutnobut Fri 29-Nov-19 08:38:33

You MUST insist he doesn’t chase your cats. Keep him on a lead around your cats at first and check him if he starts towards them. And use treats to distract him when they are around. Praise him when he ignores them.

blondenana Fri 29-Nov-19 08:25:32

I have no problem really bout retraining him, i have been taking him out after he hs eaten and he does his business, so that is one problem solved,
I am more bothered by the fact my cats are scared of him,
One of them came downstairs this morning and they met face to face,as soon as the cat moved Luke chased after him, my heart was in my mouth, as he ran upstairs after the cat,
This is what worries me,
He might be used to the cats he was brought up with but not like other cats
The poor cat wet himself,and managed to run under the bed, Luke tried to follow but couldn't get under
Otherwise he is lovely
Taking him to the vets this morning for a health check,
Will ask vets advice

watermeadow Thu 28-Nov-19 17:01:30

Treat a new dog like a puppy, taking him out often and praising for every wee or poo. He doesn’t know he shouldn’t poo in your house, dogs don’t generalise (do the same thing somewhere else after being taught it in a different place)
Neutering him won’t make him “calm down”, he’s very young and an extremely high- energy breed. I have a terrier cross and, at nearly 2, she’s manic.

jannxxx Thu 28-Nov-19 10:55:50

he is gorgeous just needs retrained, to go outside for poo and wees, just patience, treats and you will get there,

Daisymae Thu 28-Nov-19 10:51:01

Things will settle down. With regards to the jumping, ignore him until all 4 paws are in the floor. Clicker training is really useful. Will keep you both busy too. Have a look on YouTube for some demos. Once he used to the clicker, reward him when he ignores the cats. Worth trying.

blondenana Thu 28-Nov-19 10:03:41

Bichon!

blondenana Thu 28-Nov-19 09:53:07

Luke has bee very good the last couple of nights, i have taken him out after he has eaten and he has his poos then, so that is good, still a puddle this morning, but took him out at about 6-30 as he was barking ,but fed him first, and did his poo again so i think that is the key
The cats have come down a couple of times, but i have a glass panelled living room door and as soon as he sees them goes mad barking and clambering at the door so then they dash back upstairs
I am only worried because some dogs are good with cats they are brought up with but not with any they don't know

By the way i'm sorry if i didn't make it clear,i did get Luke from a private home ,but i did pay for him, i tried a lot of rescues and couldn't find a small dog who was used to cats,in fact there were hardly any small rescue dogs, except Jack Russels
A Bihon rescue somewhere a long way away from me, but mostly ex breeding dogs, [about 50] but i know someone who got one of these dogs and it is really aggressive
I met this lady with this dog on a walk with Lola, and her dog grabbed Lola by the throat, she explained he was an ex breeder from puppy farm, from this rescue,so i wouldn't even go there,poor dogs i know but they are not used to people or being handled
Luke was being rehomed because the husband wa working nights and the wife was ill, suffering from social anxiety and other problems so Luke didn't get the attention he needed
I keep calling him Lola, because they are both Ls

Tedber Wed 27-Nov-19 11:57:11

Hope you have had another couple of good nights blondenana.

I am not sure I would have the dog sleeping upstairs but...your choice.

I am sure they will adjust but whether they will all end up bosom buddies is another question.

We already had a cat and when dog came along, what I did was keep the dog downstairs at night and cat upstairs. Both got very used to this and (I think cat felt secure knowing he was 'safe' upstairs)

They eventually got to stage where we could leave them both roaming about the house when we were out but the cat would never let dog too close. Dog was kept firmly in his place by cat. (using past tense as sadly said cat died suddenly this year - nothing to do with dog btw kidney failure).

We once had a cat and dog who slept together as in your pic of Luke - I loved that but won't happen with all cats. The most you can hope for is they jog along happily together apart! My mum also adopted a cat when she already had a dog and they grew very close to each other. Cat even used to accompany my dad and dog out on his nightly walks!

Non of this happened 'overnight' though so be patient and am sure it will come.

blondenana Tue 26-Nov-19 00:00:32

I think he is settling very well, but for 2 nights now the cats [or one of them] has had a poo in my bedroom, although i have always got a tray in a spare bedroom, so i think they are very stressed
As much as i don't fancy it i have put a covered one in my room,they all sleep on my bed, and Lola did too, no problems
I am taking him upstairs and walking him around without taking him directly to them.
The trouble is he is very boisterous, and is a jumper, so i think they are worried about that
He id very affectionate though
He isn't neutered which i will get done asap, and hopefully that might calm him down ,

Lola was older so very calm, and they took to her very quickly, she basically ignored them

lilypollen Mon 25-Nov-19 23:57:11

blondenana hopefully it's early days to get settled in and you are giving the little one a new life with love. Toilet habits might take a time as for any puppy/dog and once he gets into a routine in the new environment hopefully all good.

ClareAB Mon 25-Nov-19 23:06:53

We recently adopted a 10 month old Jack Russell girl. She had been bought in tragic circumstances, terminal illness, and because of that, had spent far too much time confined to a crate/very small back yard, and had no idea of how to be a dog.
The owner died, and we have had her for 3 months. She is a little pocket rocket of energy! We already had a lab girl, and with careful, watchful management, they are getting on well.
The little one, or 'tiny terrorist' as we affectionately call her, soaks up all the love we can give. She now sleeps in our bed, at the bottom and has become so much more chilled and confident.
For the first few weeks she was my shadow, now she prefers a bit of a lie in in the morning, a cuddle on dads knee, a play with our lab, a stretch out in front of the fire. It's lovely to see a sad, timid girl become happy and chilled. Hang in there, the give back so much more than they ever take,

RubyLou Mon 25-Nov-19 22:30:55

Well done you because you did rescue, you took a dog from a family that couldn't look after him and stopped him from going to a shelter (or much worse). He looks absolutely gorgeous. My daughter rescued a lovely cocker spaniel who'd been kept as a stud dog and lived on his own in a shed. He wasn't house trained at all, it took a few months, but they cracked it and he's a delightful boy. Dogs are very adaptable and I'm sure Luke and your cats will come to terms with each other. Good luck, Lola will approve.

lavenderzen Mon 25-Nov-19 22:23:02

Luke is lovely blondennana. You have done the right thing.

I was in a similar situation, I lost my 14 year old a while ago, he is always with me, and the little fellow I rescued has a place in my heart too. He is 17 months old and a Springer King Charles cross, very lively but has a lovely nature.

Luke will settle, it just takes time, my little fellow did the "territory marking" too, but has stopped now. He was also a puller, but now has a new harness that is working a treat.

Good luck with him.

Alima Mon 25-Nov-19 21:09:28

He looks beautiful blondenanna! On past experience I am sure the cats will settle soon. (Years ago when our black and white Springer died we rescued a liver and white Springer very soon after. I thought the cats would be fine as they had all lived with a dog. Wrong. Jesse was fine but Nigel decided it was all too much and vanished for several days. We managed to get him home and they all lived together harmoniously mostly)

Fennel Mon 25-Nov-19 20:58:42

He does look gorgeous, a good choice.
Maybe he's weeing so much to put his imprint on his new home. Even when you've cleaned it up he'll be able to smell his identity there.

blondenana Mon 25-Nov-19 20:51:26

Thanks all, yes he is lovely, but i do feel guilty that the poor cats are staying upstairs as they are usually sat with me
I dont believe that the dog slept on the bed as i don't think he would be happy to stay downstairs on his own

I know i am very suspicious up to a point anyway, but i was due to get another dog, a bichon and gave the woman £50 ,
to bring him as i don't drive, but it turned out to be a scam,and apparently she has done this before
She is now being investigated by the fraud squad
I know i shouldn't have parted with any money but it was for petrol, so thought i was helping ,
Anyway i am happy with Luke ,just a bit worried about the cats

Daisymae Sun 24-Nov-19 18:04:13

He looks lovely, sure you will have a great time together. I would try taking him outside every hour for the time being. Maybe reward him when he goes?

sodapop Sun 24-Nov-19 17:22:29

He looks a lovely boy blondenana I'm sure you will have lots of fun with him. It's early days with the house training, all strange for the poor boy, he needs time to adjust.
Nothing like a dog for love and companionship is there. Good luck to you both.

Framilode Sun 24-Nov-19 16:28:02

Well done, and I'm sure you've done the right thing.

We have adopted a little female dog from Romania. She had been very ill treated but is the most gentle, loving little dog you can imagine. She has filled a huge hole in our lives after we lost our other little dog last Christmas and I'm sure yours will do the same for you.

Like you a few hiccups at first but I am sure they will soon be sorted out.

Tedber Sun 24-Nov-19 15:46:08

It probably is blondenana...... am sure he will get the message before long. Was he toilet trained at his previous? Well not toilet trained but you know what I mean?

As you say he is a totally different dog from Lola and I do think it is a good idea to get different breed. We did much same - my first love are actually German Sheps but I was so distraught when lost my last one I didn't want another dog at all! I honestly never thought I was going to get over it!

I really wish I had done what you have done now because it was ten years until I got this new one (couldn't be more chalk and cheese) It is primarily my grand daughters (although I picked the breed) but divides his time between our two houses. Also like you we all had cats. LOVE the pic of Luke with his feline friend.

He looks absolutely gorgeous.....