Serious cat dilemma

Shocking!

I'll be in trouble now for suggesting you feed a cat alcohol.

He might develop a taste for it 😀

Sauvignon Blanc? Now that's something I hadn't thought of ...

Katek

I think the problem came in trying to get callistemon down from the curtains .....

😂

Yes, I am now, a cold Sauvignon Blanc to hand 😀

Book and drops now ordered. Hope Callistemon has calmed down and purring again.

I think the problem came in trying to get callistemon down from the curtains .....

No, I put them on my tongue I think.
It was a long time ago 😁
Mind you, opening a cat's mouth and dripping a couple drops on its tongue takes a better woman than me!

Opelessgran15

Relevant Bach Flowers.2or 3 drops in water or on food.
Good luck with it all,I hope for a happy outcome for all.

You can buy plug in pheronomes too. But probably this has gone far beyond- re-homing with no other cat and no young children asap.

Callistemon did someone have to hold your nose and squirt them down your throat?

Aveline

Thanks Opelessgran15 (which I'm sure you're not!). I'll be looking out for that book on Amazon. I've heard about these flower rescue remedy drops. Hard to imagine giving them to the wee thing considering how hard it can be to give him pills but another helpful suggestion.

They do one for animals

www.rescueremedy.com/en-us/range/all-products/rescue-remedy-pet/

MayBee70 the second cat was because they were so happy with the first and thought it would be lovely to have two. However, that was a few years ago and the peeing has only started being really bad over the past year. Something must have changed but what?!

Aveline

Thanks Opelessgran15 (which I'm sure you're not!). I'll be looking out for that book on Amazon. I've heard about these flower rescue remedy drops. Hard to imagine giving them to the wee thing considering how hard it can be to give him pills but another helpful suggestion.

I took them before I went on a long haul flight for the first time.

Thanks Opelessgran15 (which I'm sure you're not!). I'll be looking out for that book on Amazon. I've heard about these flower rescue remedy drops. Hard to imagine giving them to the wee thing considering how hard it can be to give him pills but another helpful suggestion.

If the new cat didn't cause a problem to start with, I'd seriously start looking for another cause. My DIL has had this particular problem and another litter tray has done the trick. The general advice is one tray per cat plus a spare. Her cat also had this problem after they had their baby and he became a toddler. Not only did he pee but he tore his own fur out too.

It might be worth trying Zylkene which helps anxiety. There are just so many steps you can go through before rehoming. An animal is for life is a good role model for the children. Obviously sometimes things go awry but you need to show children that it is really the last resort.

Am I right in thinking that the second cat was acquired because the older cat was a one person cat and other members of the family loved cats and wanted more interaction? Maybe cat one resented the new cat because his beloved owner made a fuss of the new one? Cat pee is the vilest of smells. I must admit that, when my British Shorthair wee’d in strange places I didn’t get much pleasure from having her in my life. I did once give a British Blue cat back to the person I rehomed it from as he would lash out for no reason: it turned out that was why his breeder passed him onto me. I’d never been scared of a cat before. I’ve also had much loved cats that have just left and gone to live with someone else. We’ll never know what goes on in their heads I guess.

Soniah: do read the thread!

Could you have one?

Relevant Bach Flowers.2or 3 drops in water or on food.
Good luck with it all,I hope for a happy outcome for all.

The book I mentioned, readily available on World of Books or ebay Aveline.

Sorry I mentioned piles of ironing etc as that was what seemed almost worse to me but he'll pee on anything!
I'll be seeing them over the weekend and we'll be discussing everything.

Callistemon21

I'd still get a second opinion from another vet - it could be physical rather than stress.

Re the post about smells - that is a good point as cats dislike citrussy smells and if the men in the family are using shower gels etc that the cat dislikes, then he will avoid them.]

Perhaps the female cat isn't so fussy.

Good post.

Has there been a change of laundry detergent of softener? You say that the peeing is mostly on fabrics - piles of clean washing, soft toys, pillows.

I'd still get a second opinion from another vet - it could be physical rather than stress.

Re the post about smells - that is a good point as cats dislike citrussy smells and if the men in the family are using shower gels etc that the cat dislikes, then he will avoid them.]

Perhaps the female cat isn't so fussy.

The answer is - I don't know! Re getting a new kitten : lots of people get new cats either as kittens or rehomed adults and integration doesn't lead to these behaviours.
It must be wonderful to know exactly how any decision will work out in the future or that life is a completely black and white situation. Of course people like that don't understand irony eg calling that dear wee cat 'the culprit'.
Thanks to Grans who have made useful practical suggestions. They're all being passed on. I won't be passing on the blame being happily applied to this sad situation.