Dog sleeping on your bed..

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Just to add, until March 2020, I had another dog, a largish JR. She was a rescue and when I got her she had a lot of problems. I managed to sort most of them apart from one; she had severe separation anxiety. She would stay home with my other dog, with no problem, but couldn't be left completely alone. And when I was home, she was glued to me 24/7. If I went to the toilet, she'd follow me in and wait. If I went for a bath, she'd come in and curl up on the bathmat. So obviously, she slept on, and usually in, the bed with me! I'd often wake in the morning and find her lying with her head on the pillow next to me, fast asleep. I sadly lost her just before lockdown, and was heartbroken. I still miss seeing next to me when I wake up...

3nanny6

My beautiful girl (tall staffy cross) but not really heavily overweight slept on my bed from 7 weeks old she was amazing
and learnt her potty training in about 12 weeks never ever soiling inside the house again. Throughout her years with me
her place at night was on the bed. She had a leg operation and had to stay downstairs and literally cried all night in the end I had to bring in a camp bed and stay downstairs with her until her leg healed as all she wanted was me to be near her.

My best fifteen years was spent with my girl who was loyal brilliant companion and I loved her unconditionally, sadly her age caught up with her and due to osteoporosis in legs and just old age I had to accept it was time for our human/doggy goodbye. It has been two weeks now and I am still lost without her although all my memories are the happiest of ever.
I dearly wish she was still here to sleep on my bed.

I'm so sorry to read this! My heart goes out to you! My own, very big, Staffie is 15, and has arthritis, plus other age related problems. I know I don't have much longer with him and it's breaking my heart. He's been with me through thick and thin since he was 3 months old, and I can't imagine what liie will be like without him. I hope you're doing OK, and I'm sure your girl is watching over you! Memories last forever x

Yes yes yes. He’s small and adores to cuddle up to me and is very quiet at night ( not so during the day!). I’m single so it’s just him and me in my king/size bed!

Should say dog is a Bichon

My nivhon and 2 cats sleep on my bed.sometomed cats get in and like to be.next to.me.but they don't stay long

After next week I will only have one cat
My male cat ( Ragdolls both, ) will possibly have to be put to sleep he has cancer.and up to this week has been fine and eating well but this week has hardly touched his food.and prefers to be outside in the garden.they don't go out of it

Not looking forward to losing him
It will break my heart.he is ( both cats are 15)
so had him a long time he will be greatly missed.
I won't be fit to go anywhere for a while after as just thinking about it is upsetting
Can't bear to think how I will feel when they are all gone.so used to having an animal around
My dog is only 8 so hopefully will have him for a.long time

Yes! My dogs have always slept on the bed, and a couple have slept IN the bed. My current pooch, Dexter, used to always sleep on, an occasionally, in the bed, but he doesn't anymore. This is for two reasons. He's a big dog, he's getting on in years (he turned 15 last month), and has developed arthritis in his joints. He's finding it increasingly difficult to jump up on my bed these days, as it's quite a tall bed. I did buy him some steps to help him get up but he's scared of them and won't even consider using them! (Despite his size, he's a complete wussy!). The other reason is that in the last few months, his age is catching up with him in other ways, and he's becoming incontinent in his sleep (yes, he's seen the vet, it's just an age thing). I've tried him with dog wraps (male dog nappies), but he doesn't like them and manages to pull them off. His own bed is waterproof with a washable cover, so if he has an accident in his sleep whilst on there, it's easily cleaned up. Not the case should it happen in my bed. So I took the difficult decision to not allow him on the bed anymore. He's not impressed with me, but it is what it is. If he'd keep his wrap on, I may relent, but he won't. It's strange having the whole bed to myself, I'm so used to waking up right on the edge, after Dexy had spent the night claiming the rest of the bed, that waking up in roughly the same spot that I went to sleep in is somewhat disconcerting....

grandtanteJE65

If the dogs you dog-sit are allowed to sleep on the beds by their owners, it is just as well that you don't mind them doing so when you are the occupant of the house!

I don't currently have a dog, but I would be simply furious if I did and a dog-sitter let it sleep on chairs, sofas or beds, as my dogs have always been provided with a good bed or basket of their own, a rug and all the floor space they could want, but never allowed on beds or soft furnishngs.

I follow the instructions of the dog owner, I am told beforehand that I would have to let them sleep on the bed or that they are not allowed on the furniture.

For 30000 years dogs have been our companions and shared accommodation with us, so it isn’t surprising that we view each other as friends with benefits. Including sharing a cosy bed☺️

farview

Fleurpepper..have explained in a previous post..
iam64...😊🐶
Off to bed now with my beautiful cocker spaniel at the foot of my bed..💕🐶

sorry, will have to scroll back, I didn't see it.

Hope you had a good night- and the dog too, wherever he slept.

Mayal do let us know where Bob decides to sleep. My dog often shares the sofa with me in the evenings. His bed is on a throw on it but some evenings he feels more in need of a cuddle and then moves over and curls up with me. Does us both good.

Yes SachaMac our dog has also behaved well when he’s joined us in a hotel. He’s sat quietly in the bar when we’ve eaten, although ever hopeful that we might pass him a scrap and in one hotel they brought him a bowlful of the offcuts from a lamb joint….he almost had to fight me for them!
One observation I made was that the bedroom when we first entered it did smell of dog so I do know what people are complaining about but it’s not an aroma I’ve noticed on any of the dogs I’ve had and I hope no one else has.
I remember Katie Boyle saying her dogs slept on her bed and she liked their warm biscuity smell….I do know what she meant!

Just read this…
"Can't take him to the beach for a walk because he bothers you and messes with the holiday... I'm not allowed to rent a house if I have a dog, and I can't take him.
However, I can take him to the rubble to find you after an earthquake, in the woods after you get lost in the mountains and you didn't have neither map nor gps; under snow because you made a detour not allowed off track; in the water because, despite the red flag, you have entered the sea and your life is in danger! And finally ....
He's just a dog, but he will find you.
And he will save you!!" Dogs are family ❤️❤️

Dogs don’t seek to dominate but they do need a leader. Without that, how do they learn how to navigate our busy, at times challenging world.
They don’t ‘need’ to sleep with their people but if that makes their people happy, that’s fine.

Fleurpepper..have explained in a previous post..
iam64...😊🐶
Off to bed now with my beautiful cocker spaniel at the foot of my bed..💕🐶

There seems to be a plethora of references to out-dated or unable to accept change insults flying around at the moment.
Choosing to have your dog on your bed or not should be personal preference, not an excuse for criticism by some know-it-all.

Very many people sleep happily with their dogs on the bed.
True
Very many people sleep happily without their dogs on the bed
Equally true.

What out-dated attitudes many older people have about dogs.
“Dominance “ theory was debunked a generation ago. Domestic dogs do not think their family is a wolf pack and do not want to be pack leader.
New puppies need to feel safe so should sleep with their owners, on the bed or right beside it.
Very many people sleep happily with their dogs. I sleep with a small dog and two large cats.

Mayal, I’m so sorry, the curse of predictive text struck this iPad again

Matala, good to hear you have Bob arriving to share and enrich your life. Allowing Bob to decide sounds the way to go.

Ours always slept on our bed in her later years. As for ‘hygiene’, AFAIK nobody ever caught any bugs or suffered in any other way, health wise.
BTW ours didn’t need a ‘master’ - she knew perfectly well who was boss, i.e. me.🙂

ah that is lovely Maya1 - enjoy Bob's company.

farview- been wondering what triggered your OP. What is your own opinion on the matter?

This is such a lovely thread at just the right time for me. I am getting a new rescue BC in the next few days and was wondering what to do about whether he should be allowed on the bed.
Finn never come upstairs, his choice but since l am now alone, having lost both dear Finn and my DH in the past few months, l think l will allow Bob to decide.

Dogs are not pack animals…that’s very outdated .
My dog is kept clean.

Yes, yes, a thousand times YES !

We have stayed in dog friendly hotels, a few times in North Norfolk and Yorkshire. Quite rightly the rules were no dogs on the beds or in the dining room. They were allowed in the bar and you could eat in there if you wished.
We took a crate but didn’t need to lock it as he slept quite happily in it and didn’t attempt to get up on the bed, he behaved impeccably. I’m not sure what he would be like now as since then I have allowed him to sleep on my bed.