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Flaxseed Sun 08-Oct-23 21:35:04

How long does a cat have to be missing before you give up hope?

We went abroad for a week and left the feeding of two cats (we had a third put to sleep earlier this year) to an old neighbour and my daughter who works from ours part time.
DD thought it strange she didn’t return for food on Monday but that’s happened before and she’s usually back the following day. But she wasn’t back Tuesday either. We returned Wednesday and I felt sure she’d come back when she heard my voice. But she didn’t.
Last confirmed sighting of her was last Saturday afternoon.

We have done everything we can do. Asked neighbours to check, done leaflet drops, put posters up, put familiar smells on the doorstep (cat basket and vacuum cleaner contents) called at different times of day/night.
We don’t have many neighbours, and live on a country road with two aspects of the house overlooking fields, so there’s actually very few places she could be.

I think I can accept she may have been hit and is deceased as she does tend to think she owns the road. But what I can’t bear is to think of her shut away suffering somewhere through lack of food/drink and medication for kidney issues.

Lots of people have said to not give up hope as so many cats reappear as if nothings happened, but with a lack of places for her to be, I can’t remain optimistic.

Do cats really ‘get the hump’ when left alone?! Her and her step brother aren’t the best of friends so maybe she got fed up of him? Especially with us being away. But where would she go for so long???!!!

SueDonim Mon 09-Oct-23 14:38:22

I’m so sorry you’ve lost your beloved pet, Flaxseed. They’re such a big part of our lives. At least you have some sort of closure though I know the pain is very acute right now. flowers

BlueBelle Mon 09-Oct-23 14:52:28

Sorry to hear it was a car accident Flaxseed and not a natural death but sounds as if it was quick and final which is something I guess
Callistemon it isn’t ‘always’ obvious that a vehicle has hit a small animal Cats are very lithe and light and fast if it was a big vehicle it might not have felt a thing I was once a passenger in a car that hit a small dog we didn’t realise until we saw it run away we went to the nearest house and told them we helped look for it and it seemed ok

MayBee70 Mon 09-Oct-23 15:37:09

I'm so sorry to read this. It's why I can't have cats any more. I lost so many on the road that I tried having house cats but it never seemed right a cat not having freedom. It was even worse, though, when a cat disappeared and I never knew what had happened to it. It's good that you have closure, but it doesn't take the pain of losing them away. x

Flaxseed Mon 09-Oct-23 18:47:28

You are all so very lovely.

Thank you for your kind words thanks