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A Dilemma

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downtoearth Mon 28-Oct-24 16:20:55

Woman over road from me was taken into hospital 2 weeks ago today.

It transpires she will not be able to teturn to live alone.

She has a cat, thinking cat needed feeding until return on suspicion of a UTI, and would only be away a day or, two I said I would feed.

Woman is relatively young at 63.

I have been kept awake by cat wanting in/ out, has scratched my furniture, been sick in hidden places, no one knows if has had flee worm treatment, constantly crying to come in/out throughout the night,

The family say they are waiting for a decision but meanwhile leaving care to me, I am tiref be woken through the night.

I dont have a pet as my lifestyle is no longer compatible, cannot afford or want to accept responsibility.

Family now avoiding me.

What to do.

I love animals, heartbreaking to hear the crying, feel like I have been dumped on, affecting my mood etc.

downtoearth Wed 30-Oct-24 07:57:43

Unfortunately this has really upset me, I have always helped any who needed it in my small cul de sac.

I am animal lover and now doubting myself because I couldnt take on the poor animal and feel an awful amount of guilt over not doing so,apart from repeated requests to the sister to deal with the issue.

Have had a stressful couple of weeks within my own family that has zapped my energy levels and this has been the straw that has broken me.

merlotgran Wed 30-Oct-24 10:04:47

You did the right thing, downtoearth so don’t feel guilty about it. If you’d been in a position to take on the cat I’m sure you would have offered.

I hope your family issues are soon sorted. 💐

icanhandthemback Wed 30-Oct-24 10:21:39

downtoearth, we all have times when what is being asked of us is too much. This was one of those times for whatever reason. You did a good thing for the time you helped out. Concentrate on that aspect, not the part where you were being asked to do do more than you could. Be kind to yourself.

downtoearth Wed 30-Oct-24 10:24:23

Thankyou❤

Summerfly Wed 30-Oct-24 12:08:11

Sorry to hear all this DOWNTOEARTH. You really have done the right thing, for yourself and the poor cat. You did your best despite having family problems of your own. I hope you can try and put it behind you now. 💐

SueDonim Wed 30-Oct-24 14:03:13

You’ve done all could you manage to do, Downtoearth (love your name, btw!) so don’t feel guilty. flowers

downtoearth Wed 30-Oct-24 16:21:54

Thankyou for helping to make me feel better, it still hurts, but I know I did try, and eventually got the family to do the right thing.

Suedonim I think your name is very clever.
I am DTE, because I am.