Why does my cat not like me?

You have to realise that it's not your cat, you're it's human slave.

Some cats prefer either sex based on scent, they can tell who is a man or a woman.

Some cats just prefer one person. And are very obvious about it.

Our cat can't stand either of us! 😂
For the whole 12 years of her life we have fed her and cared for her. Apparently all we are good for is opening doors and putting food down.

Just ignore the cat .
They are imperious ,fussy little creatures.
Ask your wife not to feed her so that you can .
She might change her affections .
I do think that some animals prefer one sex over another .
Have you heard people say that's funny he/she doesn't usually like men or women and their pet is loving your company ?

I've had a problem with one Siamese cat and he didn't like any men from outside though he was affectionate with men in the house .
In fact he was very keen on my father who was diabetic and didn't appreciate his paddy pawing his legs.
He was a nightmare at the vets and very difficult to treat .

I had a beautiful red setter dog as a child and she hated men and would bite and meant it.
The postman refused to deliver our mail .
The milkman had the same protest .
And the refuse men also complained .
We had to put her away when any man came to the house.
She only tolerated my father ,who really loved her .
If he spoke loudly or waved his arms about she'd growl and then, catch his hand in her teeth to tell him that she didn't like it .
We think that both animals must have been ill treated when they were very small .

Well Arthur, masses of sensible advice, WWM and others, many pointing out (quite accurately) that cats are a law unto themselves. And if they're rescue cats, you just don't know what has shaped their psyche.

We've a long history with cats, either one or two over many years, and they DO tend to line themselves up on one person, even if they tolerate the other partner.

One pair we had, the female was very much my cat, and the big ginger male seemed to prefer IsNibs, (though food was his first love!). When we sadly lost the older female, after a couple of months the ginger one jumped ship and transferred himself to me. But I do wonder if he'd just been ogling the small sofa that I usually sit on (lots of room for books, crochet, etc), as he'd spotted that he could nicely fill the space that my clutter usually occupied (and was slightly nearer the fire in winter months!)?

Many cats don't like being picked up, some like a comb or a brush but lots hate the things! Lots don't like excessive noise, or being made a fuss of in a rough manner -- we have one now who comes to our garden if it gets noisy over in his (several kids), he has a snooze for a couple of hours then shoves off home at dinner-time!

One of my daughters had a cat, and SGS2 was sad that she didn’t sit with him or in his bed. DD suggested he be the one to feed her and let her in and out and it worked! I don’t know if that would work for all cats but it certainly did for him. Sadly the cat had to be put down recently but she was very much his cat until then.

Nanny27

Our cat can't stand either of us! 😂
For the whole 12 years of her life we have fed her and cared for her. Apparently all we are good for is opening doors and putting food down.

😂😂😂

Cats are Gods!
Humans are there to serve them.

Danma

Get yourself a dog 😉

Yep!

Get a dog

My cat (whom I have had for several years) was not interested in men) but chose to idolise my new husband - who did not like cats!! The situation ended up with me being ignored, the cat sleeping on my husband's knee and my husband suffering from being allergic to the cat ! It all settled down eventually, but was never the same. Now I have no husband and no cat as they both passed away.

Do cats 'love' anyone? Feel privileged the cat wants to live in your house.

Good old saying

You may choose dogs
But cats choose you

She will.let you know if and when she likes yo,u.

😻
x

We always had cats when our DDs were growing up - three at one point! They both got cats when they had their own places in their 20s and then acquired partners. In one DDs case her cat took to her partner who hated cats, and later took to her husband who had never in his life wanted a cat.

But I do agree that cats are unique and often you have to organise your life around them. To me, it's part of their charm!

Danma, Colls and SaxonGrace noooooo!

It is difficult to explain to people who prefer dogs but a cat's warped personality is part of its charm.

Must add that younger DD has had the current cat for about 13 years, living in three different houses. In the first two homes the cat was permanently nervous, peeing in odd places and quite a worry. Then they moved to their current home and the cat has been as happy as Larry! They have no idea why.

at one time we had 2 cats, when we went on holiday our grown up children were in the house looking after them., when we came home they ignored us for days, as if they were punishng us for leaving them. one cat loved to be sitting on my knee. the other one would come in, peep in the livingroom door then run upstairs, he was not sociable.

Madmeg

Must add that younger DD has had the current cat for about 13 years, living in three different houses. In the first two homes the cat was permanently nervous, peeing in odd places and quite a worry. Then they moved to their current home and the cat has been as happy as Larry! They have no idea why.

maybe the owners of the first 2 houses had other animals and the cat would smell the scent.

Ignore the cat , then it will be all over you ...

I once read that cats are always drawn to people that don’t like cats because they don’t look at them. So if you hate cats and visit a house with a cat it will choose to go and sit on your lap.

Our tom cat is more connected to my husband and more loving. We both feed hin and give him attention but he prefers my husband.

Since I've been convalescing following operation he has sat/slept next to me/on me while I'm on the sofa. He still prefers my husband though.

Try looking on YouTube, lots of tips on bonding and what cats really like and what puts them off.

Remember Dogs have owners, who should act as Top Dog.
Cats on the other hand have staff.
Perhaps the cats don’t approve of some of the employees enrolled by H R.

Remember that we own dogs and cats own us! All the cats I have ever had have always done their own thing, and have had rescue cats, and a cat that needed a home after being in a cattery, and a feral cat All sorts of cats, but the rule remains. So if you can find it I would read an old book called the Silent Miaow, by Paul Gallico who wrote the Snow Goose. A good read to get into some of the cat attitudes. Then you will find that no cat likes being laughed at , or being seen making a mistake. One cat I had made a misjudgement on a leap and fell to the floor. She wasnt hurt, but somewhat furious about humans seeing her. She sat with her back to us swishing her tail and ears back for quite some time! So they seem aware of your trying too hard and are quite contrary animals. So one you might try is buying a catnip mouse, which most cats love and its like an addiction to them. If you are the catnip mouse holder you will get their attention. Then dont approach them head on but sit sideways to them and try twirling some wool or strip of thin material for them to catch and play with. Alternatively , as they can be contrary, do not look directly at them, take a seat and basically ignore them. That usually means they decide to come and visit. Enjoy your slavery to a cat. I have always found it worth while

We have 9 cats. 6 male & 3 female.
Females are moody & territorial, don't mix with each other or males.

Males are usually more affectionate, ours are. 6 of them sit on my partner or surround him.
1 of the females follows me everywhere.

Cats choose their person, it's not personal. My partner had never lived with cats but all the males adore him.

pably15

Madmeg

Must add that younger DD has had the current cat for about 13 years, living in three different houses. In the first two homes the cat was permanently nervous, peeing in odd places and quite a worry. Then they moved to their current home and the cat has been as happy as Larry! They have no idea why.

maybe the owners of the first 2 houses had other animals and the cat would smell the scent.

Another take on this is that, I gather, cats are more sensitive than many to negative energies in a house (try asking a dowser if there are negative energy lines going through your house). Apparently they like them I gather.