Over 50 internet dating

One relative, one friend and one associate went down the internet dating route. They did this because they thought that at least this way they could save time and effort by ruling out what they did not want. All three had to kiss a few frogs but did meet their prince/princesses. The friend had some hilarious encounters that really should be shared. Her sense of humour sustained here so she says.

I see this thread has not had responses in almost a year; however, I just stumbled upon it and am interested. Maybe others will chime in and chat. Internet dating is a bit precarious but very uplifting in meeting new individuals and being social again. I feel dating older in life is so much more fun and relaxing than the dating days of younger years. There is no pressure for starting a family, making it big in business for impression, looking like a fashion model, or being nervous to speak. At our ages, we are so much more in tune with ourselves, know what we don't want in life and what comforts us. However, we still do need to use caution as there are a lot of twisted sorts to online dating.

i am happily married (50 years next year ) but i love chatting to people in my own age group (75) and i have always been honest about my marriage but ladiesseem to think that we married men are just after sex , pretty certain that if i lied i could get many dates but i could not lie about anything ,
talking with men is ok but i feel much with ladies on the net but very shy and awkward with them in real life face to face situations .
so any of you ladies want to chat with no strings i can be found on skype as >> dedmowsone<<

xx Derek

I think some of the sites are about friendship rather than finding a partner for life. It might be worth investigating? Good luck.

I have not been on any of the dating sites as I am not looking for a new partner, what I would like is to meet someone to go to restaurants, theatres, cinemas with (going dutch of course). Yes I can do this with friends but it would be nice to occasionally have a male companion.

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When having a family is not the driving force in a relationship we can look for different qualities in a partner and look for different things from the relationship - companionship, fun, shared interests.
Marriage need not be the goal and if you want to retain your financial independence you can do so.

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There are men out there who don't want to risk fatherhood or feeling sexually inadequate with a younger woman so don't give up.

Hi, I have tried a few of these sites and I actually look for older women, late 60's, 70's+, as I find that they know what they want and do not want too much. Some have been good and some have not. Many do not seem to want a full relationship, looking only for, lets say passion, which isn't always a bad thing and I still meet some of these lovely ladies. Then, as others have said, there are the total opposite who want all your time and are, as said before by others, a little twisted. I would say try the sites and state exactly what you are looking for at the beginning to avoid problems later. Everyone is different and looking for their own fulfilment, whatever it is. Be honest, open and as I said state what you want.

It would scare me to meet anyone now, how do you sort out the financial side of a relationship. For example if you meet in your twenties as I did with my late husband you both put the same commitment into the relationship. However, in your late fifties or more you may both have different financial circumstances, i.e. one of you or both may have property, how do you divide it if your own family expect to inherit it. I remember a friend who broke off her relationship as she did not want to cause arguments with his two children who had been promised their dad's house. Also if one person has much less than the other how can you tell if they are genuine or gold diggers. When my husband died someone told me that there are lots of men who are just looking for a home (I had a council house at the time) and they will get into a relationship just to get their name on the rent book. I would feel like a prostitute if any man paid for me in any way without me paying the same amount back. I have never allowed a man to pay for me when on a night out. How do you know how to trust them

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It all seems so daunting with many pitfalls,tried it years ago when i was widowed
at 52,never met one man with any sense of humour,very important to me.
Gave up, and now live a happy life in Cyprus lots of friends good social life but you never know! cheers.

I know what you mean about developing yourself. I met a man who fulfilled my list but was actually the most boring man in the entire world. I didn't know two hours could last so long. He had no opinions or interests. In fact he lived his life to a timetable from getting up to taking the dog for a walk to going back to bed. Everything was done by the clock.

VQ its fab to hear that you are so happy and have found that special man in your life,whilst I have been very happy with mr.g. for over 38yrs if I was on my own I think I would dip my toe in the "on line dating" scene as there are not very many places ladies of a certain age can frequent on their own a few of my friends have used dating forums and made quite a few friends though them although not all of them turned out to become full blown relationships and they picked up a few frogs on the way but hey-ho thats all part of life isn't it.

I dated a woman who had a very specific list for her dream man. I couldn't believe my good fortune when she read it to me; I fulfilled every one of them!
All except chemistry, it just wasn't there.
We tried to make it happen for a few months and had everything imaginable in common, but it just did not click.

You can say that again! I think a lot of older people have neglected their own development because of life's commitments and all.
If you want to find love, you need to be lovable.

Dating Over 50

I think I was lucky with the site I chose. I was also very cynical. I knew what I'd had with my ex and I knew what I wanted from a new man. I had a mental list which included:

doesn't smoke
doesn't drink to excess
doesn't gamble
doesn't swear in everday conversation
doesn't shout
wants me for who I am not what he thinks he can turn me into

It was quite comprehensive and I probably didn't meet up with some very nice men because they didn't fit my criteria. However it was a case of once bitten twice shy....I had no intention of making the mistake of getting involved with anyone like my ex husband.

I think you have to go into internet dating with your eyes open. Don't think your dream man is there already just waiting for you....he might be but he might not have joined yet. Just enjoy chatting and flirting with men you like and ban those you don't feel comfortable about. Think about it as a form of entertainment and way of making friends with, like the real world, the chance of meeting that someone special.

To me, any kind of dating depends on the laws of attraction. If you prepare yourself to be the kind of person you want to be, eventually you will come across somebody who fits you quite well.
It is hard though, sifting through the available partners and continually becoming disappointed. There is a big difference from site to site as well, I think.

I must have been lucky when I met my lady. We are both the same age, in our 50's. I do recall my online dating experiences though, of setting age range parameters.
I was afraid to try too young for fear of seeming to be creepy. Too old seemed, well, too old.

That's a lovely story. Just shows you never know who is around the corner waiting to enter your life.

This is my first post here and can't quite figure out where to begin, so, like most things I do, I'm just jumping in.
I had the most interesting experience with online dating. Some time ago I was playing music at our local Friday night jam and in walks this woman I'd never seen before.
Because I tend to be somewhat of a flirt and was trying to reform my ways, I moved a bit away from her so she wouldn't feel encroached upon or something.
She sat directly in front of me on a percussion box, thumping away with her hands. She was hard not to notice, I mean she was right in front of me. So, I introduced myself.
Turns out that she had just come from the library where she signed up for an online dating service and heard us playing, so she stopped in.
I saw her in her yard the next day and stopped in to say hello, and whaddayaknow, we've been dating ever since.