Over 50 internet dating

me 56 (soon to be 57) feel ermmm 104 DH 20 yrs older.....(never again) well it wouldnt actualy happen again would it lol.

freddie1 well someone who feels the same as me, good luck to us both, I suppose miracles can still happen, or can they?? hope so

tried some of these sites too but found that mostly the men seemed to be simply looking for someone to jump into bed with and not a genuine relationship

When you're young I think relationships are based on chemicals [love at first sight and all that] but when you're older it's more about having shared interests. That's why the internet is so good as you get older. But I still think that the way to meet someone is to do lots of interesting things and be happy; when you do that you attract people. When I was in my singles group I joined not wanting to 'meet' someone at all; those that did seemed to put people off. For the first time in my life I was suddenly 'in demand' ....

Momo; have you tried Spice and groups like that, more activity based. I don't think it's just for really young people. I joined a singles group when I was 50; it was just a friendship group but a lot of people met and married people. Which area do you live in? I did join one called Nexus but it was awful; although I believe their groups in other areas were quite good and it may have improved since.

I only know one couple who met on the Internet and they are married and seem to be happy. They are about 40 but I don't think age has anything to do with it.

No harm in giving it a go and seeing how it works out, why not? Alternatively join some local organisations and make friends that way. At 80 you should be doing whatever you like. Go girl, what have you got to lose?

i have lived on my own now for the last three years after loosing my best friend ( my husband ), i am 80 yrs young although i am lonely at times and would love to have some one to go on days outings and to have meals out , i still like my indipendancy ,and am a little bit scared of the dateing thing. am i a loner or is there others like me out there confused .

I did not have much success. I am interested in a friendship and not a serious relationship. The men who responded were almost all much older thatn I and looking for a soul mate. I felt as if they didn't even read my profile. Does anyone have a site they recommend. I am fifty three and newly divorced.

I'm a BBW so I went on Big Cupid.

Oh Vampire you make it sound like a really good experience when I always thought it would be quite depressing!
Which site were you on? I've never been on one and I'm not very adventurous on the internet.

I used to be on a dating site. I came into the world when I was 47. I'd met my ex when I was 14. Joining a site was the best thing I ever did. This is more or less the history of my time.

You meet a variety of people. Most nice but some weird. The advantage of the internet is that you can ban people you don't feel comfortable with. You can usually spot the nutters because they want to show you their bits within the first five minutes. Some were nice to chat to and others good fun to flirt with. Flirting can be a huge self esteem booster lol. I used to like to see them on webcam if they had one but I never showed myself.

The men I met in real life:
1. M was the most boring man in the entire world. I didn't know 2 hours could be so long. He said he was an accountant and drove a porsche. If he was then I'm Mata Hari lol.
2. J was a player. He was upfront from the start. We became great friends.
3. R was a lovely man. We became great friends after a sort of relationship. He's now with the love of his life.
4. K pretended to be single but blurted it all out on our first date. I could tell from the start that he loved his wife. I ended up as a sort of marriage guidance counsellor lol. He's still a friend and still working on his marriage.
5. N was amazing. We had a magical time together but he was ill and we both knew nothing would come of it. He's still a friend.
6. D was my fb for a few months. We met each others needs. I needed to feel cared for and spoilt and he needed to care for and spoil someone.
7. C is the most wonderful man in the world. He's kind, caring and generous. He has dark curly hair and the most dazzling blue eyes. We fell in love on the day we met. He proposed to me in a waterfall at Howarth and put the ring on my finger at Oxenhope station (where they filmed the Railway Children). We married last August and I've never been happier.

Hello, I am new to this amazing site and just noticed this thread. I have had quite a lot of experience on internet dating sites with both good and bad results.
I tend to agree with what 'maturefloosy' and Faye is saying, you could meet weirdos anywhere nowadays, not just on dating sites. You just need to be careful on them because of the scams...chaps looking for money (I've not been taken in myself, I can spot them) but some women have been taken in and send money to these people they have never met!!! Just be cautious. Personally, I'll not bother going on them anymore as sometimes seem to think that men are not looking for women their own age, but younger looking.
I sometimes just think its a bit of hit and miss with the sites, some are lucky, others are not.

I have been on and off dating sites for a while but with no success and find the hope and then the disappointment gets to me! Should I keep going?

I totally agree with nanachrissy...

Andrew,
I have lived and later married a man 24years my junior. Yes we had a ball and everything was good, but then things went sour. His immaturity showed itself. Why is it that you prefer older women I wonder? I have my own theory as to the answer!

Ive just been reading through all the messages and have had a really good laugh. My experiences with internet dating were bruising to say the least and now a few months down the line can see that apart from a few genuine people (1) most men are looking for a goodtime girl 10 - 20yrs younger than themselves. Dare I say it that there is no fool like an old fool. (not me but the men)

This post may not seem to fit, but pleae bear with me!

Because of my redudancy I have needed to set a new email acount. I have used mail.com

As it is a free service, obviously there are a lot of advertisements on there, including one for "mature dating".

Well, the first photo shown on the pop up advert (no, I did not click on anything, it's just there!) , what can I say? Apart from:
1) Do comb your hair
2) Do you really think that showing the tattoo on your shoulder at this stage is a good move?
3) By the way, there is a coathanger on the doorknob of your wardrobe.

So true nanachrissy. If you don't like your own company, why would anyone else? I love living singly, don't need a man. Visitors very welcome (just had son here for a few weeks till he found his own house) and it's nice to wave goodbye and shut the door, put my dressing gown and slippers on, and relax, doing as I like. Just me and my lovely dog, (who has been asleep in the sunshine all day)

Blossomtime I think that is the secret, to be happy on your own. You don't need a man (or woman) to be happy, and once you find that happiness, anything can happen.

I discovered that the dating sites I joined had plenty of men between 65 - 70yrs old but unfortunately were only interested in much younger women. I found the experience bruising and humiliating but a few more months down the line I can now laugh about it and enjoy my life with or without a man.

I agree, to a point.
Most men are after younger women, and "fun". But keep perserveering, and cut out?block the usual users (find a easy ?). you can spot em a mile off.

Just chat to the genuine men who are also lonely, but sadly missed, because of all the pushy blokes.

I wonder if canalman was a real poster? Could he have been advertising the website? I looked at it. It charges.

Hi Ladybird9, so sorry that you have lost your husband and friend.

I am very happy with my friend/lover, and although when we first got together, he gave it two years, as he thought I would then be too old for him. Eleven years later we are still happy with our part-time relationship.
I hope you find someone to share good times with in the near future.

morning Canalman
Firstly does your username indicate that perhaps you are a 'boating man' ?
no probs, just inquisitive.
Sorry to hear that you have lost your wife/partner as such an early time, unfortunately I too am bereaved of my husband too soon to accept, (silly statement) but I am beginning to realise that after a lots of years sharing with someone it becomes sad to be alone, no one to share opinions, or maybe comments about just about everything, no one who really understands you.
So...... as a matter of interest just what are you looking for in a woman, you have mentioned the age 'bit', but to further on the subject, am I being to forward in asking, just inqusitive, yes ..... there's that word again.
Best wishes, enjoy your weekend.
I look forward to your comment (s) if any !!!!!!!

morning nanachrissy
how refreshingly lovely to read your recent comments, wow...... good luck to you and your 21yr younger lover, I almost envy you. I have been bereaved of my husband for 5-long years (still crazy 'bout him) but...... missing a decent male company for lots of reasons, it IS difficult to find a new relationship after being loyal and sincere for over 30 years. Sometimes I just need a 'fella' with a sense of humour, someone to walk with, maybe, chat with, and just to see how life progresses, nothing serious, there we go we all have our crosses to bare, some are heavier than others, just keep smiling as often as poss.
May your relationship continue for many many years.
Happy Saturday to you and yours