Over 50 internet dating

We have 3 lady friends who after being widowed early in their lives ( late 40's early 50's) who sadly have decided that there is no other way than to remain alone without a partner or a companion. They do join in with some groups like ramblers for one of them, but it is quite a shame that they feel this way.
One of them, who has children in their 20's and who are at home still, books an escort for a dinner date and sex on a monthly basis as a "Treat".
All 3 have no faith in Internet dating or otherwise, it seems modern life and fear of the other humans in society have put many ladies off and could be losing out of happiness with another in their later years.

My partner and I have been together for four years, we met on an internet dating site. I wouldn't hesitate to do it again (but hope I won't need to!).

We had both had some odd meetings with others before we met, but on the whole it was a good experience and would recommend it to others.

My best friend met her partner of 18 years through a dataing agency and we had great fund sifting out the wheat from the chaff so to speak.

We are not in a "relationship" as such. Sometimes I don't see him for weeks or even months, but we share similar interests,we like to do the same things, and same sort of holidays.
Surely you don't have to be the same age to enjoy these things?

It's like saying "I don't have anything in common with blondes".

Faye I share your view. It puzzles me when people of vastly different ages seek each other out, rather than someone from their peer group. I can't see that I would have that much in common with a man 20 or more years younger than me. Some things - yes - but for me I would be irritated by having to think across a generation or more with someone that I had an intimate relationship with. But that's all academic - I love being single and not getting entangled with anyone at all!!

Faye you lay out an argument about age shouldn't matter and you should just be attracted to the person but got on to say you "don't find younger men appealing" maybe some men don't find younger women appealing.

My point of view Andrew is some younger men appear to think all older women are grateful for a younger man's interest. I find it strange that a man would be targeting older women, wouldn't you find a particular type of woman attractive to you, age should be irrelevant. Why are you looking for older women in particular? Of course men and women may become attracted to someone ten, twenty years different in age and I have met a few who have ended up happily married. One such couple I met were camping in their caravan along the river. The male wanted his wife to enjoy one last trip in their caravan as she was in her 80s and was becoming too frail...he was in his 60s. .
I have been asked out on dates by men who I have met face to face up to 20 years younger. I was not flattered and don't find younger men appealing, but know some women who do because they fancy younger men in general, not because they are attracted to a man who happens to be younger. I find it quite annoying the way some younger men target older women online. If they met a woman face to face and were attracted to them that is a whole different thing to searching for women who are ten to twenty years older. Why women Andrew, why are you not searching for a woman?

Nanachrissy I think your lover finds you more interesting and attractive than other women, he has already stuck around for a long time....that is the difference, your age is irrelevant to him and his to you!

nanac

Well, younger men do usually have a lot of stamina!

I'm not as daft as I look you know!

Well done you nanachrissy and I must say that Andrew I would not class late 40s as a younger man,many of us GNers would give men of that age more than a run for their money,thats if we where in the least bit interested.

nanachrissy

Nanachrissy...you've cheered me up! Maybe I'll give those younger men more than a look next time

Funnily enough... his name is Andy!!!

thanks nanachrissy , its nice to hear of someone having fun!! long may it continue!!

Andrew I have a male friend, he is an ex but we are good friends and still lovers (when I have the energy) and have been so for eleven years. He thinks that older women are more interesting and more fun than young women.

He is 21 years younger than I, and we never stop talking and laughing when we are together, and never think about the age difference.

Hello, I can assure you that i am neither seeking a Mrs Robinson figure or a Mummy substitute!!

On the other hand... my DH is 10 years younger than me and there are many plus sides. I think this is becoming increasingly common as stereotypes fade. But I might I suppose be a bit suspicious that someone looking specifically for an older woman was looking for a mummy.

Hello, I am new to this amazing site and just noticed this thread. I have had quite a lot of experience on internet dating sites with both good and bad results.
I do wonder, Andrew, whether the" Mrs Robinson " fantasy is just that for most older women? I know I would feel too shy or insecure to take up such an offer, more's the pity!

Em, i would never introduce myself in such a way, as you say that is very offputting. And Faye its nice that you feel able to speak for an entire generation of women! You may be yawning and resolutely unthrilled but please refrain from posting opinions of your own and passing them off as "received wisdom". Hope the boredom clears up.

Andrew should we be thrilled that you might want to chat to us, should we be thrilled that yet another man who is ten, twenty years younger than us might be interested in us. No...yawn, we are not thrilled, we are quite bored.

Congratulations nonnasusie! So glad to hear you too found happiness through Dateline

Andrew May I just make an observation? I was once contacted by a younger man - 40ish - who introduced himself by saying that he knew exactly what older women were after and he was 'up for it'!! Very offputting. I'm not for one moment suggesting you'd do/say anything like that but it could be that several ladies had had a similar experience and and decided to stay clear. I think I'm a young 63 but admit I would be wary of meeting anyone where there is such a big age gap.

Like digikiden I joined dateline after being widowed at 47. By the time I joined my kids were a bit older and more or less independant. After a couple of "frogs" I met my present partner. We have been together 10 years and married just after my 60th birthday (3 years ago) We are now happily living in Italy!!

i am a male in my late 40s and have used a couple of sites looking to meet 'older' women of no maximum age limit. i have usually been disappointed and not to mention deflated after a few fruitless searches. i often got the impression that i wasnt being taken seriously. t o reiterate i was looking to meet women up to and beyond 20 plus my age(48). surely there must be some women out there looking for the same thing?!

Just joined Gransnet and noticed this thread.

In 1990 I found myself aged 47 a single mum with 3 teenage children ( usual story... secretary). With much help from friends and a counsellor I got my life together... and joined Dateline. This was in pre-Internet days, and was a phone dating agency. I was lucky, found a soul-mate and we've been married now for nearly 20 years. For me it was so worth the risk of trying something completely new

I've been using dating sites for some time now. I have been living alone since my partner died back in 2000. I'm now in my 60s and don't want a committed relationship right now. I look for women in my age group, +/- 10 years and have had many replies from all ages.
Use them if you understand why most other users are there. You need to establish early on exactly what it is the other person is looking for. Don't be afraid to ask detailed questions. They need to know what I want from them, they need to know what they want from me, so that there are no embarrassing surprises.
If all the answers, well, most of them, are what you are looking for, then arrange a meeting.
Good luck!