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unfaithful son in law

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numberplease Sun 04-Dec-11 16:54:47

Grandmaagain, we`re going through a similar situation in our family right now. Our DIL has accused our son of cheating on her, although he hotly denies everything. They have 2 sons, aged almost 15 and 11 and a half, and only got married in July of this year. I say he denies it, and we so want to believe him, but the evidence is so damning, but also so damning as to look contrived by the 3rd party concerned, so that none of us knows what to believe anymore. We thought that they were so happy. I do hope that everything works out to the good for your daughter and grandson.

Notsogrand Sun 04-Dec-11 16:45:02

I've had a similar situation grandmaagain and it's devastating. My thoughts are with you and your family. sad thanks

glammanana Sun 04-Dec-11 16:25:23

Oh grandmaagain how awful for your DD and her baby boy such a fool of a man, why do they do it ? my heart goes out to you as someone who has just helped put some pieces together again with my own DD after her X left her earlier this year for his own space!!! thanks for you xx

mrshat Sun 04-Dec-11 16:23:21

O dear GA. Poor you and your DH and of course your DD. MEN!!!! Life can be such a b** sometimes. Think positive thoughts and love for your DGS and DD. Such pain and distress must be so tough. sad angry {{hugs}}

gracesmum Sun 04-Dec-11 16:07:49

Oh the total B*****D! I am so so sorry for your DD and for you. How dare he!angryangry
7 years ago DD was "jilted" 3 weeks before her wedding by a similar low-life who clearly had commitment problems but not the b***s to face them before proposing and wedding planning. I shed many tears for her but of course better before the event than after. He has sunk without trace and she has a lovely new husband who I would trust with my life just as you would presumably have done with your SIL.
I can only sympathise and share your anger and grief - you had come to love him and in fact he has cheated on you as well as your daughter.
Why are some men so selfish? She has given him a beautiful son and he has duties and responsiblities. Do some men have no feelings other than the obvious one? I wish you strength for the hard times to come. sad

Carol Sun 04-Dec-11 15:57:53

How heartbreaking for you grandmaagain. Yes, it seems no-one is immune - just when we are counting our blessings, life comes up and smacks us in the eye. You are amonst many more, I'm sure, who've faced this issue from both sides. I hope your daughter will be ok.

bagitha Sun 04-Dec-11 15:52:15

Oh, grandmaagain! Such pain! sad {{{hugs}}}

grandmaagain Sun 04-Dec-11 15:43:49

Oh how my smugness has come back to bite me!
just found out that my darling son in law who I loved with all my heart is an unfaithful wretch who has broken my dear daughters heart 4 months after their son was born. she had a hellish pregnancy, birth and complications after and all the time he supported her and we loved him for it. They have been together for 11 years and gave the impression they were blisfully happy now we find out this was not the case at all and he has been unfaithful before this final incident and she had forgiven him and said nothing.
Dh and I have cried ourselves sick now we must do all we can to support her and our dear grandson we will not let this wicked man bring her down.
I have been very complacent in my posts on here thinking we were the lucky ones with no problems but if you can forgive me I would love some support!