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Gramps

Hi gramps
I know about living with a PD sufferer, and I can understand how worried your "lovely missus" must be. How wonderful that she is there for you, through this and all your other family trials.
We just try to stay positive - if he gets fed up I remind him how lucky we are to have each other, a wonderful family, and good neighbours - and of course the wee grandchildren who are our beacon for the future.
PD does not kill you but it seriously curtails your life. We are both nearly 20 years younger than you, and sometimes feel very frustrated about the things we would have liked to do during our retirement (which has only just begun) and which will now no longer be possible.
My OH finds the tremor dreadfully irritating and it causes him pain and makes him very tense - he also has problems eating and is fading away before my very eyes. He has sleep problems too, and problems of "freezing up" and muscle weakness - in fact some new trial seems to appear most weeks! Getting everything done in the house and garden can be quite hard.
But as you say, life is full of hard lessons - I suppose what we have learned from all this is to take each day as it comes and look for the good things in it - sounds so trite I know, but it is what keeps us going.
I am so glad that you have each other, as we do - maybe that is more important than nights of passion! - I think it probably is.

Mishap I think you are definitely right. Having each other for support, love and companionship is much more important than sex. It must be terribly hard for you but you are together.

gramps the physical side of your relationship may have disappeared but you both have the love holding you together, I have a friend who is in her early 50's and has been diagnosed with Parkinson's and she is taking everyday as it comes and said the love of her family is what is pulling her through.

Thank you Mishap. This is not my problem but I find the way you respond to issues very calming and comforting

Beautiful post mishap

Thank you, lovely lady. xx

Dear Ladies,

Re. Parkinson's.
(We could almost start another thread!)

It is very good to have a support group that you can attend,
I can suggest various Forums, but I've already had my knuckles rapped (in a friendly way!) for mis- use of the site. and I don't want to cause probs here.

Mishap,

If you want, and if the Editor is willing, you can contact me privately.

This is the wrong thread for this subject.

My friends boys have developed Parkinson's, one is 29 the other 34, apparently it is rare for it to appear twice in the same family. I just hope that treatments will improve before it gets too advanced for them.

Mishap & Gramps

I know several people with PD, three of whom have early onset PD. Hopefully researchers will come up with a way to alleviate /cure the disease in the near future.

There is a lot of research ongoing at present time, using stem cells.
Research takes time as the results have to be verified. It is also very expensive!
New drugs are coming onto the market, but as you may know, we are all individuals - tailor made. what helps one, can poison somebody else with identical symptoms!

It is /is not, heredity based, but on the DNA in your genetic pool.

Mishap, I'm very sorry to hear of spoilt plans for retirement.

The advice I give to PDers is, to stay POSITIVE (not easy, I know)
Accept that you have it. It is then easier to come to terms with it after a (long) while. Some folk cope more easily than others!
Make plans as normal for every day life, but be prepared to modify them as necessary!

Don't isolate yourselves. Easier to explain to friends , I let people know who I have any dealings with!

We all have an inner strength to call on, regardless of faith or none!

Thank you for your kind words ladies - they are appreciated.

gramps is right about the medications - every time they need to be changed or to add in a new one (as now) we keep our fingers crossed as the side effects can be unpleasant to say the least. It is hard to target them accurately - one drug might alleviate some particular symptoms, but not necessarily the one that troubles you most!

Thank you for your advice. You have found positive ways to deal with your PD and that is heartening for us.

I also think it is important to be open about it - to start with, my OH did not even want to tell our children as he knew they would be upset, but I could not tolerate any dishonesty with them and he then agreed. He did not want others outside the family to know to start with, but that became an untenable position, as he was obviously unwell. He eventually changed his mind about this; and one of the upsides of the illness has been the kindness of neighbours and friends - without it we would never have known how they cared. We are surrounded by offers of help on all sides; and some quiet understated support in the form of phone calls when the weather is bad, checking our troublesome drainage system; offering a rota of care for me if I have to go in and have a new hip - we feel buoyed up on a network of lovely people around us. And our children are wonderful.

Mishap and Gramps and [smiles] to brighten your day.

mishap

Mishap and Gramps

Thanx for your support dear Grannies.
It makes such a difference you see,
Now you know a little of what makes us tick,
When we get struck with PD!

I've written many a poem,
With PD often a theme,
But this, as I said, is not the right thread,
So ,I'll go, B4 I make you all SQUEAM!!

Everyone

I am so please to see this thread finishing on a friendly note. All we wanted to do was to re-assure Pinkhater that all would be well eventually, and as my Dad used to say, worse things happen at sea.

Deep down we do love the ladies in our lives.

pompa A lovely message from you. Big

Watch it together it can be FUN!

Some friends of ours gave us a soft porn movie, they said they bought it by mistake ????. It had naked women all over it and mentioned boobs and striptease, so what they thought it was about heaven knows. Purely in the interest of research we started to watch it - hilarious, it's all in Japanese, over acted to the extreme, and the story line is out of the Beano. We could not believe just how bad it was, we have to watch it now, just to see how on earth the story will unfold. The plot is based on a female Japanese warrior, who gains superhuman powers by exposing her breast. Can it get any worse - probably

Sounds like a waste of life watching that one pompa! The clock is ticking - use it wisely!!

It's Mrs. P that wants to know how it will end - you are right, us Guys have to use our time more wisely. ---- Pompa Ducks as a plate flies past his head !

Im a 35 year old woman & honestly couldn't say how often men do think about sex,to assume it is all the time is merely a stereotype.
Im single,never been marry,no kids,support myself and have had amazing relationships in the past with really good men. That i never settle down with one of them could be because the one for me is still to come into my life.
All that being said my personal experience is that i do think of sex very often,i watched and enjoy friendly or female friendly porn. why not? helps me perfect my own fantasies.

Materials possessions to be gained can be taking away from you in a blink of an eye,is a shallow outlook & not very fulfilling.
The next phone,clothes or jewelry are a waist of precious time and money,within six months they become all obsolete outdated and out of silly fashion.

Sigh!

The Olympics are definitely over.

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