Something else our mothers never warned us about I suspect *
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I echo what Lona posted, to you too annsixty
to all GNs who are carers for a loved-one, x
Big hugs are very definitely winging their way to both of you. It is a non-stop responsibility and that is what makes it so hard - it is done willingly but we are all only human and are allowed to have moments when we rail against the hand that we have been dealt. A good grumble sometimes helps to relieve the pressure building up and prevents a valve from blowing - how good that you are able to come on here and let off steam.
It is relentless, and not what you would have planned. Hope you can both find a moment to take care of yourself - nice soaky bath while OH asleep?
There is help out there if you need some respite - deciding when it is the right moment to ask for this is a hard one.
Well done for your perseverance.
All I can say is that we must be doing a great job ladies. Like the analogy of the swan, all serene above and paddling like mad where nobody sees. to us all. Xx
Huge respect to you sparky for your courage and determination over the last year plus since your husband has had his stroke. The posts on here show how strong you have been in helping to get him better and conquering every obstacle thrown at you. You are brilliant, someone to look up to and admire. Well done and I hope that you both go from strength to strength in his recovery.
I expect when people say your DH is looking well it's one of those stock phrases that people use when they don't know what to say. I struggle to find things to say to my SIL who is coping with my brothers dementia. Saying it's b****y awful and I don't know how you cope doesn't seem to be uplifting but perhaps would be a better thing to say. Most of us just don't know the right words. When my DH has his strokes other people were trying to be positive for me but unless you've been there yourself it's hard to imagine what others are going through. to all you wonderful ladies and a big (hug) for anyone who needs it.
I have to ask myself the ? what did I ever do without GNet????? There`s a song which has a line that goes something like "you life me up" and that`s what I`m saying to ya`all. Thanks for all the 
[hugs] they are so much appreciated.
So agree sparkygran. GN has filled a great void for me too as you know. and hugs back to all the lovely people in the ether.
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