I was told about my DD's wedding by her on a recent visit, it being Sept '15. On further discussions I have been told that she want to walk into the ceremony herself, no-one "giving her away", and at the casual, no seating plan reception there is to be no speeches neither.
Her fiance is an orphan and I am divorced, my DD's father having had no contact for some 14 years now. I have been the only one involved with my DD, bringing her up, supporting her through Uni, supporting emotionally and financially when they had my two GS's, aged 3 and 1 years old now. They have both picked and asked friends already to be bridesmaids and two best men. I will obviously be the only parent and have not been asked to perform any task or role in this wedding at all. I am in bad health, waiting for an open heart operation and I try to go to their home, over 60 miles away to visit as regular as I can as they don't come to see me often.
After saying that I was upset that I hadn't been included in their plans, my DD got very heated and told me not to go at all.
Am I being unreasonable in wanting to take my place as her mother? I feel like I should skulk around at the back and hide myself. My DS, her DB has not been asked to take any part either even though it was the three of us after I split from their abusive violent father and they were really close before she left for University.
She is forever after money off me, but being ill and unable to work, my money is tight. She tries emotionally blackmailing me saying the children need things and then I find boxes of wine and beer in their home. She lies too, to gain attention, has done for years so the trust is already shaky between us.
I keep trying to bridge the gap between us but I have come to the end of my tether and now it is time to either go our separate ways or to tell her that enough is enough, my health is suffering and to stop her games if she wants us to continue to see each other. She is 27 years old. Am I right to feel aggrieved after bringing her up on my own and not being involved in their special day when they have wanted me and my money so much in the past? Btw, I am not paying for the wedding, they are. Maybe if I were, I could have a part in it? (sad)
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