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Is It Wrong For a Younger Man to Date A older Woman?

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Trevor47 Wed 23-Jul-14 11:11:35

My first ever relationship was with an Older Lady who was in her late 50s.
I was in my mid 30s, and I seriously didn't see anything wrong in being involved with an older woman.
while the relationship lasted we did things that all couples do like seeing each other
Going on holidays together.
Spending weekends together etc , etc.
And Yes we also had sex.
my last relationship was with another older woman who was in her early 60s when we met
And I was in my mid 30s and our relationship/friendship lasted for 9 years.
Sadly she died in april this year after suffering a Heart attack which she never really recovered from and suddenly died while sitting reading in her daughters garden.
I was shocked and heartbroken when I finally found out what had happened to my dear ex girlfriend.
When I told my mum who is age 70 by the way, she was surprised that I had dated a much older woman and asked me what I was doing with someone much older than me?
I told her that my dear ex partner's age didn't bother me and I was proud and honored to have been a part of her life.
I now hold onto the hope of one day being re-united with my dear ex girlfriend based on faith in Jesus Christ.
Without that I would Have no hope at all except the precious memories which I continue to treasure.
I don't have a problem with people of different ages That have a relationship.
I think it is a good thing.
If anything what spoils it is imperfection in that eventually everyone grows old and dies.
To me that is the worst thing of all and it has happened to me and took away my dear ex girlfriend.
Obviously it happens to everyone eventually and everyone has their own way of dealing with it.
I say to those in a relationship in which you are younger and your partner is older
Enjoy it and try not to let society scare you into ending it with your partner.
if you both like and love each other
hold on to what you have because it is precious and like what happened to my dear partner
Death took her away.
So before it also takes your partner away, try to enjoy every moment of being in love.
Its one of the best if not the best thing in life.
And women are an incredible creation.
everything a man could wish for all in one unique and incredible body.
despite the cruelty of death, we are still blessed and so always treasure your partner and Treat like you would treat something of value.

Penstemmon Fri 01-Aug-14 10:58:35

Through work I knee a number of adults with literacy difficulties. The pattern of their writing was usually fairly consistent, they rarely used complex grammatical structures, idioms or attempted complex vocabulary. (compared to literate adults).

Adult illiteracy is difficult to live with.

Penstemmon Fri 01-Aug-14 10:59:09

I did not knee anyone...I knew them!

Lilygran Fri 01-Aug-14 11:18:01

No.

feetlebaum Fri 01-Aug-14 11:30:47

"Is it wrong..."?

What do you mean, 'wrong'? There's no rule book.

Elegran Fri 01-Aug-14 12:19:22

He meant it as a sprat to catch a mackerel, Feetlebaum, and a few mackeral replied.

Terrafirma1 Fri 01-Aug-14 12:58:41

Certainly the way I read it the OP was not really inteterested in an answer to his hypothetical question, just an excuse to talk about himself and perhaps appeal to kindted spirits wink