Very Sad but I think Mum has decided enough's enough.

You are a very loving daughter Merlot in respecting your Mum's decision

Sending you hugs merlotgran
My mum decided she'd had enough and we just had to accept it's what she wanted. It's hard though for you .My thoughts are with you.

A very sad time for you Merlot. I hope you find some comfort in knowing she has been happy and well cared for in the home that you found for her.

There does come a time Merlot

I empathise

Had to do this with my husband, merlot, so I know how hard it is. But if you are sure it's what she wants, then you are doing what's best for her, as lots of people on here have told me.

After my dad died my mother was in three homes, but the last one was the one that she actually called home. She died the night after she said that, three months after my dad. She always said she wanted to die after him so he would not have to cope on his own, and she did.

Keep strong for her, merlot.

Thinking of you, and hoping that she can be at peace. So good that you found the right home for her where she has had happy times.

My thoughts are with you too merlotgran

Not an easy time merlot my thoughts are with you.

Merlot it's so hard & sad to lose your mum, even when you know that's what she wants. Thinking of you

ditto granjura..... give her your hugs and your blessing.

So sad but bitter/sweet also. You are so lucky to have had such a good relationship with your mother. More hugs from me.

Lucky you, eh, * merlot*

I am sad for you but so glad you and your mum have such a loving relationship. (((hugs)))

merlot You've been a caring daughter, hug her while you still can (((hugs)))

Thinking of you both Merlot. I hope your mum's ending is quiet and gentle and that she finds peace at the last.

Blimey, sparkygran I think you really mean the never ending supply of

Hug from me too, merlot

Merlotgran I send you hugs and a never ending supply of I have been where you are now and my thoughts are with you and yours

Merlotgran I send you hugs and a never ending supply of I have been where you are now and my thoughts are with you and yours

Merlotgran I send you hugs and a never ending supply of I have been where you are now and my thoughts are with you and yours

Merlotgran I send you hugs and a never ending supply of I have been where you are now and my thoughts are with you and yours

Thanks for the lovely comments everyone. They are much appreciated.

Mum loves to sing. She has no short term memory whatsoever but can remember hundreds of songs from her childhood, the war years, marriage to Dad etc., etc.,

On Monday she got a song 'stuck in the loop' she must have sung it fifteen times. It was one of the jokey WW2 Forces mickey takes on a hymn that we used to sing when I was small.

There Is a Happy Land Far Far Away,
Where we all congregate three times a day,
Ham and Eggs we never see,
No more sugar in our tea,
And we are gradually.....fading away.

I think she's trying to tell me.

I hope she feels at peace. You seem to have shared a warm and loving relationship that she is still aware of despite her illness . I hope that will be good comfort to you at this difficult time.

You sound a lovely daughter Merlot. ((hug))