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Falconbird Sat 27-Dec-14 11:58:57

This is my third Christmas without my husband and I was really thrown by the fact that I missed him much more than in previous years. I think the initial shock of his sudden passing is wearing off. I have three sons and three lovely grandchildren - but without "my bloke" it seemed very very empty and lonely this year.

sad

bikergran Sat 25-Apr-15 20:43:57

loopyloo not sure if you were around at the time as it must be a couple of yrs ago now, but we had a few virtual parties one of them at Blackpool....grin I took my inflatable friends,(used to put them in my top box and then take them to a garage to blow them up, got some funny looks) grin I fell asleep on the beach and when I awoke one of them (think it was Eric) had floated out to sea, never to be seen again shock the other (can't rem his name) was punctured at one of the Virtual GNet parties!! think it may have been the Halloween Pendle Witches one ! they were very rough with him throwing him around like that! in fact I think there were some arrests if my mind re calls !!!
shock
grin

nannieroz111 Sat 25-Apr-15 20:35:42

Inflatable friends? ........... I'm intrigued!!!!!!! Do tell.

loopylou Sat 25-Apr-15 20:33:01

grin
My mind's boggling overtime!

bikergran Sat 25-Apr-15 20:27:28

and anno please don't mention anything to nannieroz about my inflatable friends "she won't share a bedroom with me if we go to Llandudno" shock

bikergran Sat 25-Apr-15 18:12:00

ticks box "pink one for nannieroz grin should arrive first class post around Tuesday...smile

anno if you had seem me straight after I posted that!! I don't know what happened!! for some reason I went backward and read an old thread sad this is what this horrible things does to us, fine one min, and ten steps back the next!
I re read all the lovely msgs I received on GN after DH passed away, they were so comforting, I don't even know why I did it!! when I knew what it would do to me, I think just lately I have ben trying to think it never happened, but then reading all the old posts, brings you back to the real world.

I will be ok and fine so lets carry on smile now where did I put my Foam hand?? hmm
Going to dust my suitcase off soon (well!! got to be prepared for the great expedition when it comes) grin
If I had loads n loads of dosh! I would come and collect you all, book us all in a "nice" hotel on the sea front hire a big comfy bus for us all to explore. lovely jubbly oh and I would order plenty of wine no more than that wine wine wine wine wine and brew brew brew for tea drinkers and lots of afternoon cupcake cupcake cupcake oh and of course the sunshine smile

nannieroz111 Sat 25-Apr-15 17:35:21

Put me down for one please biker. Baby pink I think lol. grin

annodomini Sat 25-Apr-15 17:26:25

I couldn't think of a better word to describe your spirit, biker. sunshine

bikergran Sat 25-Apr-15 16:32:12

anno I had to look up what " indomitable * meant thank you smile

bikergran Sat 25-Apr-15 16:19:53

lol lol shhhhhhhh....................... anno not everyone knows about them!! grin lol.

annodomini Sat 25-Apr-15 14:28:29

biker! You're indomitable. Did you get the big foam hands from the same source (Ebay?) where you got your legendary 'inflatable friends'? grin

bikergran Sat 25-Apr-15 13:49:13

Ok I am now taking orders for:
"Big Foam Hands " (virtual of course)! grin

Instructions for use are: "When one has achieved a small step, no matter how small.......place hand inside the Foam and pat oneself on back" (if you have a very good friend you could ask them to do it) grin

You should! feel an instant feel good factor and should bring a smile to face smile if smile to face does not happen, then return the Foam hand in pre paid envelope and it will be replaced as it could be a manufacturing fault.

Please state Blue/Pink or Yellow grin

Falconbird Wed 22-Apr-15 07:06:20

durhamjen grin

I know what you mean about the Tablet. I was at a friends one evening and she said I'm just off to fetch my tablet. I said
"Got a headache"
Went to a wonderful new doc yesterday and he said I was doing great not taking the Diazapam. He was my dream doctor, he listened and was really understanding.

The hospital experience must have been so hard, but you survived it. Does what you survive make you stronger, that's a big question??

Galen - my husband was a systems analyst. It made me have low self esteem around technology but getting braver.

nannieroz111 Tue 21-Apr-15 22:14:44

durhamjen flowers flowers flowers

durhamjen Tue 21-Apr-15 21:44:30

Falcon, that happened to me two years ago. I ended up in intensive care for a couple of weeks, then on a ward for a month. I felt very sorry for myself, having no husband. I had looked after him for 15 years, and he wasn't there for me when I needed him.
However, if he had been alive, he would have had to go into a home as he couldn't be left on his own.

My family keep me so busy, teaching my grandson five days a week this term, that I do not have time to think. I fall asleep when he goes home most days. I do not tell them about the pain in my back when I worry if it's the same thing happening again, as I can see the fear in their eyes.

I was getting worried about you, Falcon, with that big tablet after someone mentioned Temazepam. It's okay, I've worked it out now!

bikergran Tue 21-Apr-15 20:41:23

Good place nannieroz wink and thankyou loopylou love the name smile

Galan and Falcon are now our techies! smile I shall make the badges when I find my sticky backed plastic! smile

loopylou Tue 21-Apr-15 20:07:25

DS is 'one of those' Galen, I'm none the wiser either!

I'm in awe of all of you, it's very humbling reading this thread x

nannieroz111 Tue 21-Apr-15 20:00:58

Thanks for the beautiful flowers falcon. I've got them on the front room window ledge biker smile

Galen Tue 21-Apr-15 15:12:27

As my DH was a systems analyst (whatever that is?) I never used computers. I'm now an iPad addict and completely self taught in emails, Pages, Photoshop and all sorts of things.

bikergran Tue 21-Apr-15 14:41:03

Where have you put yours nannieroz ?

bikergran Tue 21-Apr-15 14:40:32

Falcon they must have cost you a fortune!! shock really you shouldn't have lol, Iv'e put mine in water they look beautiful on the little table thankyou smile

Falconbird Tue 21-Apr-15 09:09:57

Thanks biker and nannie - I'm definitely going to get one of those BIG Foam hands or maybe I'll just imagine it. Doing it now - well done Falcon.

Since my DH passed away I've coped with most thing quite well, but technology has frightened me witless on more than one occasion. shock

Another scary thing is the thought of having to go into hospital with no husband to come and visit me. This happened to a friend just after her DH passed away.

It was just her luck that her ward was full of women with husbands. She said it was really, really hard but she survived.

flowers a really big bunch from a florist - for all of us brave widows.

nannieroz111 Tue 21-Apr-15 08:16:24

Well done falconbird. Your patience paid off. Hope you find it useful for yourself and GS. Your DH would be so proud of you. flowers

bikergran Tue 21-Apr-15 08:14:31

Falcon you are now our "Official Techy Wizzard " smile well done, pat on back with BIG foam hand ! smile

Falconbird Tue 21-Apr-15 07:31:35

nannie - I've got the Tablet working - I can't believe I did it by myself. My DH would be amazed at the skillls I've learnt.

Feel happy and sad all at the same time smile sad

annsixty Mon 20-Apr-15 13:47:53

nannie flowers