Mothers and daughters

What a beautiful summary. You've warmed my heart.

That's sums it up beautifully absent, very poignant, thank you

Thank you Absent.
I think the key is your idea of a million tiny links being forged - relationships don't just happen, they need work from both sides and those of us with happy relationships with our daughters are fortunate indeed.

Lovely absent.

It's like going round in a spiral dance, isn't it? One of my daughters pulled out of my dance, but I feel she's still there on the sideline and may again join in. My other daughter has rediscovered herself after a miserable marriage and as I kissed her cheek when she left me last night, I suddenly thought of the first time I kissed her cheek as she was put into my arms almost 49 years ago. I don't know why that came into my mind. Thank you for your post, absent. x

Marelli The music still plays as long as you can hear it.

LOVE that quote absent.

Went to see my little GS in his class assembly and I remembered his dad at that age. My GS waved and smiled.

I was a bit tearful, but with happiness.

I realised that I will live on in my GS' memory and when he is man and I have probably shuffled off, he will say "I remember when nan came to my school to see me"

to you for that, absent. x

absent you have put it so well. on your day.

Yes, that is lovely, but such an idealised picture of a relationship which many of us never had.It just makes me so sad. Sorry to put a downer on the thread but it needed to be said for all in my situation.

I have tears in my eyes now, absent but they are happy ones because you have summed up my relationship with my daughter so well. Thank you.

That made me misty eyed too.
Mum and I hardly ever kissed or hugged but we were very close. It's the same with DD and I.

Lovely post absent

It's the same with sons though, isn't it? Isn't it just "relationships with our children"?

Alright, I didn't buy kitten heels with him...

jings speaking personally no, it's not the same with sons. I wouldn't say my brother had the same relationship with mum that I did either.
Of course there are many who's opinion will differ.

absent a lovely post.
I have a very close relationship with both my daughter and my son, and I thank my lucky stars for them every day.

It's not the 'same' relationship with a son, but in some ways an even closer one, at least for me.

I don't recall DD ever introducing me to her friends as if I was royalty!

Usually just a quick 'This is my Mum' before they disappeared into her bedroom to do whatever it is teenage girls do in each others' bedrooms for hours on end!

Exactly Anya.

Ana did you perhaps forget to put your tiara on again?

absent doesn't need a tiara. She has a naturally regal demeanour.
(Meant in the nicest way absent)

I think it is lovely, but it applies equally to a mother/son relationship. The only thing different is the kitten heels. Everything else stands.

My DD rarely introduces me to anyone at all! I just sort of stand there lurking or introduce myself. I started a thread on this a while ago.

While I am sure that mothers and sons have close, loving and special relationships and, indeed, fathers and daughters too, mother and daughter relationships have another dimension simply because we are the same sex. Mothers do not know what it feels like to be a little boy and grow into a man and a father but we do know what it feels like to be a little girl, a woman and a mother (including giving birth).