My grandma is very poorly

Thinking of you, gillybob. I hope she does not suffer for long. Life is hard at times like this

I whispered to my dear one that it was ok to go, as she slept more and more and eventually slipped away.
Sending you heartfelt support....

gilly sorry to hear that your Grandma is in hospital, stay strong, you have been a good granddaughter to her and she will appreciate your love and attention

gillybob, I've just logged on and seen your post. It's so hard for you, but not for her, not now. You're sitting with her, chatting away and there's every chance she's hearing and perhaps sometimes understanding what you're saying.
How lucky you've both been, to have each other in your lives. xx

Heartbreaking - no other words to say - just so sad for you.

Gilly so sorry to hear about your nan.
My mum slowly drifted away after slipping into a deeper and deeper sleep,her organs where slowly giving up as well.
we sat with mum all night and nurses where wonderful in making sure she was comfortable,we held her hand and talked to her,I am sure she heard, as my brother was working away as a long distance driver,we explained he was on his way..she waited for him she stirred when he walked in....everything there after was peaceful.
what I am trying to say if your nan is un responsive I am sure she knows you are there say everything you need to,and tell her how much you love herxxxx

Gillybob I hope she can stay peaceful and comfortable. (((hugs))) from me as well.
Do keep talking to her and telling her things. You will never know but she might hear you even if she cannot respond.

When my gran was dying, the nurse told us that hearing is the last thing to go and we should go on chatting to her. We did - and it helped us to feel we were doing something constructive and that we might just have made things a bit easier for her. Thinking of you.

Thinking of you and your Gran tonight gillybob

I feel hesitant to post as I'm new here but your situation has touched me , Gilly, while also reminding me that we all need support at these times. I am sure your Grandma will hear you and benefit. Thinking of you both. Xx

Thinking of you, gillybob, at this sad time. Your grandma will know you are there and will hear you.

When my mother suffered a massive stroke, she lay totally unresponsive for a week in hospital. I sat with her for hours every day, talking to her, sometimes wondering whether she could hear anything at all. My sister had been visiting her DD1 in Canada and as soon as she walked in and spoke, a tear trickled down our mum's cheek. She'd been waiting for her and died peacefully an hour later.

gillybob Many of us know how very close you are to your grandma and what a great support you have been to her.

I'm so sorry to hear she is very ill. It makes no difference how old a close relative may be - my graddad was 97 - it is still a terrible wrench when they die.

As others have said, your grandma will be comforted by having you so frequently at her side - as you have always been.

Wishing you both peace.

Thinking of you gillybob. Your gran will have all her thoughts of happy times with you and other family and will no doubt slip away peacefully. You keep all those thoughts with you, you will never lose them. What a lovely long life and what tales she must have had to tell.

I am so sorry to hear about your Gran, gillybob. I know how close you are to her and how much you love her. You have been lucky to have her for so long, but it doesn't make it any easier when the time comes, does it? And how lucky she is to have such a devoted granddaughter by her side, helping her on this final journey.
It sounds as though she is peaceful, for which I know you must be so grateful. Love to you and your family at this distressing time

Dear gillybob I'm on holiday and just logged on for a quick catch up and saw your post. I'd like to add my heartfelt sympathy and encourage you to keep 'rambling' on to your granny, I'm sure the familiar voice of loved ones will be soothing to her.

Feeling for you Gillybob. I think many of us have sat with loved ones as they gradually leave life so know how hard it is to watch. I agree with others who say that your being there and talking to your Gran is probably very comforting for her and the best thing you can do for her now. And it is true that as the body begins to fail, she is likely to fall into a deep sleep and not suffer towards the end.

((Hugs)) to you at this difficult time.

Gillybob, I can`t find more to say than has already been said, but thinking of you, and your lovely Grandma.

Thank you again everyone for your lovely comments. My grandma is being moved into a hospice within the hospital grounds over the next few days. The ward that she is currently on is a geriatric medical ward. It's extremely noisy and even though my grandma has her own room now, there is no peace with buzzers going, phones ringing and other patients shouting constantly. Also, I am told the staff/patient ratio is much better in the hospice and they concentrate more on palliative care rather than medical. Nevertheless, I am popping over to see the hospice later today (just to double check and put my mind at rest) with a view to her being moved there soon. We had hoped for her to go home but that's looking highly unlikely now as even with outside help there would only be myself and my cousin who could look after her.

Yesterday My DH and I were chatting away to her when (totally out of the blue) she said "Gilly, I wish you had a hammer to knock me over the head with" (my grandma always used to say that when she forgot something) It made me smile to think that she hasn't lost her wicked sense of humour. She then whispered that she had loved her own grandma very much and that she could "see" her as plain as day. She seems much more peaceful now. X

for you and your grandma . She sounds ready to go.

Dear Gilly I am sad for you - we all know how much she means to you. It's good that she is moving to the hospice, so that you and she can be peaceful together. xxxxx

Gilly - when my gran was dying she too was virtually unconscious for days, and then out of the blue started talking, much to our amazement. She said "It's time I went home." So, she probably knew where she was, and was much more with it that we had realised - so we kept chatting until she slipped peacefully away.

The hospice will be well geared up to proper palliative care, and will hopefully be more peaceful for her and for your family.

Gilly that sounds a very much more suitable place to be than a busy acute ward. My Dad who died at 86 having been diagnosed with duodenal cancer two months earlier, was on a noisy, busy general ward until his last couple of days. Neither of the two local hospices had places, or did not "take people from hospitals". I really felt bitter about that. They did not have a palliative care ward as they didn't have a palliative care consultant.

Gillybob I'm just reiterating what others have said, but the hospice will be a much calmer and more gentle environment for all of you. Visiting will be more pleasant with fewer 'hospital rules', if any, plus more flexible visiting times.

So sorry to hear about your heartbreaking situation gillybob. I lost my dear granny more than 20 years ago and I still miss her terribly. She passed away in hospital and sadly my mum and I got there too late. I wish I'd been there with her but I suppose it just wasn't meant to be.

My dear step father died 3 years ago and me, DH, my bro and mum were all there with him. I'm sure he knew we were and he wasn't alone. All you can do is be with her as much as you can and yes, keep chatting away. She'll know you're with her.

for you.