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hildajenniJ Thu 17-Sept-15 19:25:53

My Dad is very poorly in the care home. I went to visit him this afternoon. He was unaware of our presence I think. He had his eyes open when we first entered his room but was not focussed and did not look at me. I don't know if he heard any of what we said. (I took my sister with me). He looked very comfortable. The staff at the care home have been lovely, and cared for him very well. It is only a matter of time now. I have asked the care home to ring me when he passes, as I would like to go and help lay him out. When I was nursing the EMI patients, it was my favourite part of the job, as it is the last thing you can do for them. The staff I spoke to were happy to do this, so I await their call. I was not able to do this for my mother as she died in hospital. My sister thought it was a strange request, but it is just the way I feel.

shysal Fri 18-Sept-15 11:55:17

flowers. Look after yourself hildajenniJ.

dustyangel Fri 18-Sept-15 11:56:15

I'm so sorry to hear of your dad's death hilda flowers

Smileless2012 Fri 18-Sept-15 13:37:35

Sincere condolences for your loss hildaflowers.

What a distressing situation for you all to be in durhamjen I hope your m.i.l. is receiving the care she needs and is at last free from painflowers

TriciaF Fri 18-Sept-15 14:26:51

Condolences from me too, Hilda. At least you were able to spend a lot of time with hm in his last days.
Jen - bon courage, your MIL could well recover. I used to have friend who broke her hip at age 85. She got over it, lived happily until 95.

hildajenniJ Fri 18-Sept-15 14:50:44

I looked after a lovely little lady that had the same treatment as your MiL durhamjen. She fell in the night, and the carers just picked her up and put her back to bed. I discovered her in the morning and realised immediately that she had a fracture. She had her operation and returned to the home. She mobilised very well and lived for several years after. The carer who put her back to bed was sacked after an internal inquiry.
Dad's passing was swift and peaceful, of that I am very thankful. The carers were all lovely, and thought he was very funny. He did have a marvellous, quirky sense of humour which continued through the confusion of dementia. He has made a lasting impression on them, so "crack on, lasses" as he would say.

rubysong Fri 18-Sept-15 15:37:13

Glad you have lots of happy memories of your dear father hildajj. Sympathy to you for your loss.

Bellanonna Fri 18-Sept-15 16:12:37

It's lovely to remember your Dad with his quirky sense of humour. Great memories for you and your family, Hilda flowers

hildajenniJ Fri 18-Sept-15 17:02:55

Thank you all once again. I am now trying to find music for the funeral. Not an easy task as Dad had a very eclectic taste in music. I am thinking maybe a Gilbert and Sullivan overture, his favourite was The Mikado. He also liked Mozart and Rossini, so maybe The Barber of Seville. I think I'm going to need some time for this. smile Here is little George. This must have been taken in the mid 1930's. Fab hair, why didn't I inherit it?

Luckygirl Fri 18-Sept-15 17:38:31

What a mischievous face! - he looks like the artful dodger! Looking at that photo I can't help feeling he was probably a bit of a character. It is a brilliant photo which I am sure you will treasure.

Riverwalk Fri 18-Sept-15 18:08:03

Condolences to you Hilda on the death of your father. flowers

What a wonderful picture!

I have a lump in my throat looking at that young good-looking boy with smiling eyes, aged about 8? I hope he lived a happy and contented life.

POGS Fri 18-Sept-15 19:49:57

Hildajennij

What a lovely photo, he looked a right cheeky little lad full of fun. smile

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