End of an Era.

The title, end of an Era is in reference to the fact that Dad is the last living member of his family.

You must do what feels right for you, hilda , sending every good wish to you and your family that your Dad has a peaceful end.

It does sound as if his life is drawing peacefully to a close. How good that he has loving care in his care home.
A wrench for you whatever, but maybe the peaceful end we could all wish for.

for you hilda, always so tough when you say goodbye to a parent. I have the greatest of respect for you wanting to help lay him out. Such a loving, daughterly thing to do and you will know you have done everything you can for him, right to his end.

hildajenniJ, my very best to you. We all have our ways of coping and if you can make plans and carry them out it will help you. Its a way of retaining a little control in an otherwise uncontrollable event.
My sister and I were at our Mother's side as she died. We both held her hands and wished her on her way. It was unbearable in some ways yet looking back we cherish the memory of that night when we could be with her. Once it was over what remained seemed so unlike her we could walk away and let others take over, but that was us, everyone is different.

I am so glad that he is peaceful and is being well cared for and that you will be able to do that last service for him.

It's a comfort to know they are being well cared for. It helps with the sadness when the time comes.

So pleased to hear that your DF has had such good care in the home Hildaj it must have taken a weight off your mind. Wishing him a peaceful end

My friend is a nurse. She laid out her father, and says she is so pleased she did.
I have been in your situation hilda thinking of you, it's hard I know

I am afraid that I didn't get my wish. Dad died during the night, and I asked the care home to lay him out if he died at night. My sisters and I have lots to do. I have the task of contacting distant family members, so I have several emails to send.
Thank you all for your good wishes, it is comforting to know that I have the support of all of you, who I regard as friends.

He is at peace now, and was in the hands of good carers.

hilda it sounds like a very peaceful end, something we all wish for, for our loved ones and ourselves.
Take care

Love and condolences hilda

I'm sorry you weren't able to help with the laying out, hildajj, and send my condolences too. All the best for the grieving time to come . Will be thinking of you.

My friend is a nurse. She laid out her father, and says she is so pleased she did.
I have been in your situation hilda thinking of you, it's hard I know

Sorry, for the double post. I don't know what happened there

Sincere condolences hilda

I have this to come Hilda. My husband is in the late stages of Alzheimer's. I'm sorry you didn't get to lay him out.

hildajenniJ So sorry to hear of your father's death. It seems to have been a comfortable and peaceful end, but I'm sorry that you weren't able to lay out his body.
A sad time and my thoughts are with you

So sorry to hear that you weren't able to carry out your wishes Hildajj, but you were there for your DF when he needed you most.

Hilda, that's how my mother died, overnight in a care home. It sounds like your dad died peacefully which is what we all want.
I spent yesterday afternoon in hospital with my mother in law asking God to help her, and saying she was sorry and asking for forgiveness. I do not know who from. She kept refusing to drink.
She was in there because last Friday she was left on her own in the day room in the care home, and fell somehow and broke her hip. They picked her up and put her to bed at 7 p.m. When she was screaming at 2 a.m. they rang for an ambulance to take her to hospital where they found the broken hip.

I'd much rather die the way your dad and my mother did, than be in the situation my mother in law is in.

My condolences and best wishes to you and your family.

Hilda

Virtual hugs and Hildajennij