Bad marriages

Yoga is it possible that you are suiffering from depression? That can make one feel very low and hopeless about a situation that could have some kind of resolution, even if it means facing up to changing your life.

Could you start by talking to your GP or a councillor?

Financially are you able to separate ? If that's yes, do it. Your not old, there's a whole world out there. Go have some fun. And you'll probably find that all your health issues will disappear

When was the last time you had a heart to heart to him about it?
Sorry to read how you feel both emotionally and physically.

Swings and roundabouts Yoga; I did leave an unhappy marriage when I was in my fifties..I have gained some things since then but I've also lost things [including financial stability]. Best to stick with what you're got unless it totally unbearable imo. No relationship is perfect.

teetime I think you've hit the nail on the head ... there has to be a positive trajectory - I'd hate to feel stuck in a dead end relationship in my sixties.

One thing I do sometimes wonder about - I'm aware that I have influenced my husband and some of his values and traits have rubbed off on me - sometimes I wonder how I would have been if I was married to someone else. Because I do think who we have as a life partner shapes who we are, especially over a long period of time. Hope that makes sense!

yoga for you.

I sympathise with you Yogadatti. I suspect that many reading this are in a similar situation, but do not feel comfortable going into details online

I'm sorry you feel like that it must be miserable. I've been married this time for nearly 38 years and some of it early on was very difficult but its seems to have got better and better lately- sometimes that happens. I wonder if you would feel better about it if you were well- is there anything you can do about your own health?