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Financial Independence should I get divorced to gain my financial Independence

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tippex50 Fri 02-Oct-15 09:54:29

I am struggling with being financially supported by my husband for the last 2 years. I have tried really hard to find work but it is not happening and after spending all my savings in 2012/2013 to sustain our lifestyle I am now receiving what seems like pocket money from the other half. I have had a few medical problems but am now on the mend however although I love my husband I cannot stand being supported by him. I do not know what to do?
I feel I might be cutting off my nose to spite my face but on the other hand I would be able to stand on my own two feet somehow. I have always worked and always supported myself never had any help from family or friends so this is really f* my head up. I don't know what to do and feel quite suicidal.

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rosequartz Sat 03-Oct-15 17:25:17

Could you persuade him to go to Relate with you?

And I don't think you should be feeling bad about being financially dependent on him; if he lost his job and you got one that was well-paid I am sure you would be happy to be the breadwinner.
Can you sit down together and work out a budget?

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tippex50 Sun 04-Oct-15 08:17:01

Thanks Luckygirl I guess it is a case of hanging in there until something changes. I have been here i.e. that bad place before but I was single then and managed to move on grin in fact that's how I met the DH and had a career change which was all going so well until well who knows what happened.Life is strange.

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wotanuisanceABC123 Sun 04-Oct-15 12:48:46

Thanks for the link! I've just joined it so looking forward to some good advice and communications.

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