Ds, dil and 2 dgs live about 100 miles away-just too far to drive for a day trip as we both struggle with sitting for that length of time. We occasionally take the train when there's an offer, but usually we stay overnight in a hotel. Since they moved in July, however, we've been able to stay overnight with them at their instigation. Ds is very assiduous In calling us weekly and Dil is very pleasant, texts or emails, facetimes us with the little boys and makes us very welcome when we visit. Sounds pretty good when I read that back, but there's one thing that's becoming a bit of an issue for me-it's always us that makes the running, they never visit us. In fact they haven't been down in 2 years. Now I fully appreciate that they have two very small children, that they both work and need their own space/time-and I could live with that apart from the fact that they do manage to visit dil's family reasonably frequently. I know we're lucky to have a good relationship and see the little ones as much as we do, but there's a little kernel of resentment building up about it always being us making the effort. It's not been easy these past few months with my chest problems and dh has his ongoing cardiac issues. DD1 says her brother is just behaving the way he always did-expecting mum and dad to sort everything out and that he still has some maturing to do. I just wish I didn't have to keep gritting my teeth when I hear they're off to one of her relatives.
