Pre marital nookie.

I'm saying nothing

Me neither...

I was married at 21 in 1963 and, like Daddima, was kept virtuous by the difficulty of accessing birth control and the utter shame of unmarried pregnancy.

I read the title as pre-marital cookie. I'm all for that. #cookielover

I got married at 29 and between a very strict Catholic upbringing and difficulty of accessing contraception, I was really good.

I wasn't good

I kept myself 'pure' for my wedding night. I always thought it would be setting a good example to any daughters I produced. How stupid I was !!!

I bet you were tanith!

We had cookies sometimes but they were called biscuits in the 60s!

Well, it was a different world back then ( the past is a different country etc)
Fear of pregnancy kept knees firmly together.

6 to 12 seems a lot to me, but maybe I m old-fashioned. I said to my girls that they should only have sex with someone they had some sort of established relationship with (not necessarily marriage). One night stands seem to be all the rage now. I can't say that I think that is a good thing.

moi non plus Kitty and Ana ;)

6 to 12 would have been horrific in our day surely! Well, it's bad today too.

I plead the Fifth Amendment - its was the '60s!

I think what changed attitudes more than anything was the introduction of the "pill", and before that , the cap, which I started with in the early 60s, thinking I was very modern.
1974 - family planning clinics were allowed to precribe the pill to single women.

Sex is a commodity these days . It appears to be almost something that's 'bartered' ...I bought you dinner you owe me sex. Or given away as having no value with one night stands.

In my younger days , the 60's it was really the fear of getting pregnant that kept my legs crossed and also sex was not really an expectation after a date, some kissing etc but that was it really.

Once the pill arrived I had a couple of partners before DH but am horrified by the ease with which young people leap from bed to bed apparently these days.

My Gran said to me ," before you jump into bed with someone, take a moment to remember that's the face you'll be looking at next morning on the pillow. If that doesn't seem right don't do it!' .i think she had a point.

I told my own daughters that they were precious and you don't just give something precious to just anybody . I must have said something right because one daughter had one long term parter before marrying and the other married her first long term boyfriend .

12? no way, virgin bride? Nop

The pill was on prescription only in the late 60s . The best contraceptive freely available was aspirin .
Firmly gripped between the knees.

Had no one heard of condoms before the late 60s then?

Married at 21 in '75 to my first and only

Yes Ana , we'd definitely heard of them but you still had to buy them.

It was a different time, none of my friends would have even thought as women to carry a condom. It was at a time when contraception still fell mainly to men. It's hard to believe the change in attitude in a mere 50 years.

In 1970 my GP wouldn't prescribe the pill for me, but gave me a kindly little talk.I was a married woman.So I cast around for a clinic, and after a ton of forms to fill in, and another little talk,they gave me the pill.Would any girl today believe that?

Brook Advisory Centres in Scotland were prescribing the pill in late 1960's.

I put my hand up to three, but I married two of them I remember being given the third degree, by I think the Brook Advisory Centre when I wanted to go on the pill and I think I was possibly aged 19 or 20

Yes of course, Nana and Grampy, I wasn't suggesting that young women in the 60s went around with a condom in their handbag 'just in case', just pointing out that the pill wasn't the only form of contraception in those days.