32 Year Relationship Over

Thank you all so much. I do think it's a form of grief, as you do Imperfect27. I am going to see a counselor/therapist, also going to have reiki, so we'll see what they bring.

I never thought that I'd be the one asking for comfort due to this happening. I realise that people are left everyday & heartbreak is all around, but when you're on the receiving end of it, it's the most awful feeling that I wouldn't want anyone to experience.

Thank you everyon

kitspurr I am so sorry you must be heartbroken and that word conveys it all - it feels as though your heart has literally broken. I don't know what to say except there are a lot of us on here to talk to. I'm sending you one of my extra big hugs and wishing you well.

I am so glad Tiggy and Imperfect have answered I started several times and deleted what I had written,nothing seems appropriate.I kept coming back to your post hoping someone would stop and offer comfort.I have experienced all of those emotions just recently when my partner became ill with depression and was unsure where I stood,this is too raw still,although my partner is slowly recovering,the memory of it is still painful.
sending you a big hug because I cant give you advice or the words of wisdom you need...xxxxxxx and just letting you know your feelings are normal and understood by others.

I can only reiterate what Imperfect27 has said. You must take care of yourself but do not hide away however easy that would be. Go out shoulders back, head held high and look the world in the face - you will not be disappointed with what you will see !
for you.

Dear Kitspurr, I am so sorry to read your post. When my 19 year (17 married) relationship ended, it was not my choice and it felt like a bereavement. Some people do not like this comparison, but I think it is apt. You are grieving and the future looks very scary.

I want to reassure you that all the emotions and the attendant anxiety that you re experiencing are very normal. It will take time to process the rawness and to come through it, but you can and you will. At the moment, you need to be as gentle with yourself as you can be and to recognise that you are 'walking wounded.'

I am glad you are able to see your doctor and you may also benefit from being referred to a counsellor.

It doesn't matter how well things are talked through between you and your partner, rejection and loss are very hard on us. BUT, there is new life beyond the pain and it is possible to be happy in yourself again. It takes time and there is no hiding from the sadness, but please do not despair because there will be better days to come.