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Moving on from divorce

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techygran Wed 13-Jan-16 16:49:32

Hello all, although I've been a member for a while and read the forums often this is the first time I have posted. I've seen how helpful and wise the comments can be on here and I am in desperate need of some anonymous support.

My DH and I divorced 18 months ago. He was my second marriage and it had lasted 12 years. My first husband passed away years ago.

I have been asked out by a mutual acquaintance who similarly divorced a couple years ago. We've got similar interests and it would be like friends going out for dinner - which is a good thing I think.
I'm extremely nervous. What if there's no spark - how do I let him down gently? Or what if I fall for him and he doesn't fancy me in the slightest. I feel like a teenager again. Has anyone else been in this position? I'm debating cancelling just because I can't bear the whatifs!

luluaugust Thu 21-Jan-16 10:50:32

I agree with the others do contact him and suggest a daytime meet up. Everybody seems to kiss each other on meeting and leaving nowadays so do just wonder if he thought it would be expected.

yulle87 Thu 21-Jan-16 18:12:46

Yes I agree, enjoy your dates but keep your sense of humour at all times. If he get a bit too physical, just say "hey, what's the rush, let's just get to know each other gradually".
Lucky you, starting dating again is quite exciting. Make the most of it and don't be nervous.