What does your DH or partner do that irritates the hell out of you?

Indinana I know what you mean about the headphones thing. My OH has his headphones on when he is crunching through his bowl of late evening cereal. I am reading or ippading and the noise he makes really winds me up. He also shouts at the television when he's watching QT and that is when my headphones go on!

I feel very sorry for the ladies who arrive in a coffee shop with their husband and then sit in silence while he reads the paper. That's so rude. My late husband, for all his faults, would never have done that. Going for coffee is meant for chat. It's only if I'm alone that I need something to read and more often than not, I wait till I get home for a coffee if I don't have a friend to chat with.

All of the above (had a good laugh reading them.)

When he gets back from his keep fit evenings, he traipses up to the bathroom and drapes his kit and his towel all round the bathroom. That makes me want to scream. I have to go up after him, gather them all up and take them down to the laundry. This is the only one I've confronted him on, but he still persists on doing it.

After showering he uses a plastic wiper to wipe down the glass doors of the shower. With a Clonk - Clonk - Clonk which drives me mad - I crawl into bed curl up under the covers and hold my hands over my ears to stop myself screaming.

He generally only does half of anything - if there's a pile of things to wash up, he'll wash up only a select few (no idea what criteria he uses to decide which ones to wash and which ones to leave). Not to mention that he uses any old water that's in the sink to do it, and then dries them up with the wrong towel. We have 4 bins in the kitchen (compost, normal waste and 2 recycling) - but he only ever takes one or two out at a time. I have demonstrated that even I with my smaller hands can easily carry the bags from 4 bins out at one go.

I daren't say anything any more. Experience has shows that it has no effect except to poison the atmosphere, and perhaps I'm scared what he'd retaliate with. There could well be something I do which annoys him.

Snowdrop my DD does not own an iron - her OH works from home and so far she is nearly 40 and never used one!!!!! My admiration for her knows no bounds. Another gripe re OH - he continually back seat navigates. Even when the driver knows the roads better than him. On many occasions he has been threatened with being chucke out of the ar to walk home.

Granarchist the washing-up fairy lives in our house too. Along with the laundry fairy, bed-making fairy, tidying fairy, cooking fairy and shopping fairy. I draw a line at the ironing fairy!

My dear OH drives me mad when he sees me get my key out and then jams his in the door just before my key can hit the lock. He does the same thing when I get change out for car park meters. Mine comes out of my purse: in his goes to the machine! When we were given a green bin for recycling he used to grub around the kitchen waste taking out things I'd consigned to the bin (usually contaminated with food and not in a fit state for recycling). If I suggest something he does the complete opposite. He is an angry ranter and shouts about a whole list of bete noir: the BBC, potholes, weather forecasters, Jeremy Corbyn (anyone who leads leftist political parties really), the NHS, transport systems, other drivers.

However, I have my own faults too and my family generally put up with my eccentric eating habits, my OCD cleaning habits, my general lowish spirits and my habits of solitude. Therefore, I reckon it's all a bit of give and take.

Recently the dear OH had a health scare which might have resulted in my losing him and that showed me, not that I needed showing, how much I would rather have him around.

As to his good side the OH is clever, funny, literate and literary, a good husband and father, loving, a good provider and has a wealth of knowledge on all manner of subjects. He loves Shakespeare and Mozart and cries at sad films. I can forgive the keys and small change.

Whilst sitting at the table as I prepare to serve supper, he logs onto his newly acquired Tablet and continually grunts as he reads - drives me insane!

He also sleeps on the settee every evening and snores for England - I turn up the TV volume to drown out the noise - then throw a cushion at him in exasperation. Then he complains about the program that I am watching - even though he has slept through most of it - grrrrr.

Retirement is wonderful - but all that togetherness can be too much of a good thing...............

Oh yes Tizliz - I always say my OH is not so much a 'glass half empty' person as a 'glass with the water hardly covering the bottom' person. It is exhausting. He gets it from his late mother.

With me it is his 'glass half empty' attitude to life. I am a 'glass half full' person. So everything that goes the slightest bit wrong is a disaster. What he would be like if there really was a disaster I don't know.

1. stating the bleedin obvious.
2. Putting things that should go in the dishwasher in the sink 'to soak' (where presumably the washing-up fairy will find them)
3. Putting up the folding plate rack in the dishwasher EVERY time, when I want it down for large pans.
4. Insisting on watching something on TV when I don't want to and then FALLING ASLEEP in front of it - and snoring.

Enough???

oops nearly forgot - sighing - endless endless sighing

I wish I knew the correct term ( perhaps it's called clearing the throat ) but it's much h much worse than that ! It's that horrible,disgusting hawking back that some men in the street do before spitting. He doesn't spit (perhaps that even more gross )
He does this numerous times on waking and even several times during the night. Yuk yuk yuk.

Marelli, maybe your husband has a dairy allergy. I used to have to clear my throat all the time, which was driving me and everyone else nuts, then a Chinese acupuncturist suggested that I might have a dairy allergy. I gave up all dairy products and instantly stopped having to clear my throat. If I inadvertently eat or drink something containing dairy, I know it immediately as I immediately start having to clear my throat again. You can always substitute soya products, which are very easy to come by these days and I find that I can eat sheep's cheese without any problems but not products from goats or cows.

Washing up! Plates are washed and left 'to drain' and pans are filled with water 'to soak'.
And we don't need a dishwasher, do we?

leaves hair on toilet seat when he has been to loo,how can he not notice.hates watching holby city and casualty so while I watch them he sits next to me on his lap top at the vital bit of action he says why is he doing that , I nearly kill him wqith my look I give him,he does some dusting uses a whole can of mr shine in one session dusting using say 15 dusters to make it look like he has been really busy while I have been out , but actually misses more than he does , less is more , would prefer one room done well than the whole house just touched .men ,,, just had a dizzy bug , had to see doctor for pills to stop dizzy spell, he actually said when I told him I was ill , will you still be able to cook tea ,,,,

Mowing the grass just before we have visitors and walking the cuttings through the house. Cutting his toenails in front of me. Snoring of course.

But most of all, he is completely unable to sit down and eat at the same time as me, has to fuss around getting extra drinks, fiddle with the remote control, or find some other excuse. I have usually virtually finished by the time he takes his first bite!

I get blamed for leaving a light on once a month, or turning up the central heating thermostat when its freezing, but I can't complain because he is much better at tidying up than me!

When someone on tv says 'at the end of the day' my dh says 'it's midnight'..... every time.

Puts on his watch to go for a shower, takes the watch off and places it on the bathroom shelf. After his shower he then puts on his watch again. There's a clock in the bathroom.

Wears white socks to go play bowls, these are the league rules. Keeps the white socks on for the rest of the day.

However my dh is so kind and nice that I'll call these little quirks and not really irritations. It would be interesting to hear what 'quirk' I have that is irritating to dh.

number he might be the only person you know who chews ice-cream and jelly, but I've got one like that too (see my post at 17.29 yesterday)

Mine sniffs loudly. I tell him it's bad manners and he ignores me. Also for years I've found nail clippings on the floor of the lounge. I used to blame our son, but then he left home and it's still happening. Hubby obviously cuts his toe nails after I've gone to bed and leaves them where they fall. He also leaves his empty wine glass and bottle for me to remove in the morning. He also conducts loud phone calls in the evening while sitting beside me. He points to the tv and said "turn it down". I've got used to watching in silence. These are business calls so he feels they are more important that me watching tv. On the other hand he is kind, generous and loving. He's a smashing granddad, and after 40 years he's bound to have some bad habits. I probably have just as many as him.

Indinana, I was reading these posts out to my DH, when I got to yours about your DH 'chewing' custard and you telling him that 'custard doesn't need to be chewed'. My DH answered as quick as a flash, 'maybe her custard does'!
I have given him a slap on your behalf .
That's one of the ways he irritates me though, as well as eating noisily, think feeding time in the lions den, he's super fast with 'witty' remarks! So fast in fact, that one day he's going to cut his own throat with his sharp tongue!
He's actually lovely, he's not being unkind (about your custard or anything else), his comments are always funny, just a bit wearing at times!

Next question
"What do you do, that irritates the hell out of your DH?"

My ex husband could snore for England. He was once woken up in hospital because he was snoring so loud it was disturbing other patients.

I'm sure there are things I do that annoy him as much as those that annoy me!

goose1964 that sounds like my ex!

numberplease "How long have you got" was the first phrase that sprang to my mind too! Judthepud2 my DH uses any spare table to work on (work being making things, involving glue guns and soldering!). Needless to say there is now glue on the kitchen table and 2 coffee tables - even stronger than super glue it seems. I too am not allowed to touch or move anything, although eventually it does get sorted - on average twice a year... I'm absolutely certain that he could find endless irritating habits of mine to comment on - tidying things away would probably be top of the list! Isn't that what relationships are about though - we love one another despite the annoyances

Well my husband is very kind so I wasn't going to say anything about his snoring BUT, as I was going upstairs for my shower this morning, I asked him not to use the water and he agreed he wouldn't. I was covered in soap and he flushed the downstairs toilet! It happens all the time.