My dear mum passed away in the early hours of yesterday morning. She was only 74 years old and had suffered from bone cancer for 15 years and was a kidney Dialysis patient for 5 years. The last few weeks have been horrendous for my dad, my sister and I sitting by her bedside watching her fade away and in so much pain and discomfort. She almost had her last wish , which was to die at home surrounded by her small family but she chose to slip away quietly only an hour after I drove home just after midnight. Right until the end she was asking me to make sure I looked after my dad. I know she is free from pain now but she has suffered for so long it's just not fair.
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I'm so sorry for your loss 
Oh how very sad for all of you.
Gillybob, and hugs. So sorry to hear of your loss, especially as your Mum was younger than me, but she is now free from pain. I am sorry that my words may seem just 'words' but we all here will be wishing you well.
so sorry to hear this gillybob you have had a sad year, but I hope that you and the rest of your family can comfort and support each other knowing that you did all you could. 
So sad.
gillybob please accept my sincere condolences
I am so sorry for your loss gillybob
So sorry for your loss gillybob, you must feel drained and exhausted as well as bereft. Now is the time to be kind to yourself, don't forget that you were by her side all the way, which is what she will have wanted, and don't feel guilty about any of it. Also to give and receive support from your Dad and your sister and to focus on looking after each other, sometimes sharing your grief helps and can bring solace. When my Dad died (Mum had already gone) sharing fond memories with my brothers and sister helped ease the pain, and sometimes helped us laugh as well as cry.
gilly {{{{hugs}}}} take care and don't forget what I said that you need to look after yourself!!!
Condolences, gilly. It has been a hard time for your family. Take care
So sorry to hear this gilly - it is always hard even when it is expected. Well done for all your patient care.
gillybob, it's all been said and I feel so sad for you and the rest of your family.
Thinking of you all at this very sad time. Your Mum is at peace now.
So sorry to hear your sad news, Gillybob. kind thoughts and hugs
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