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My mum died yesterday.

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gillybob Sat 02-Apr-16 09:18:31

My dear mum passed away in the early hours of yesterday morning. She was only 74 years old and had suffered from bone cancer for 15 years and was a kidney Dialysis patient for 5 years. The last few weeks have been horrendous for my dad, my sister and I sitting by her bedside watching her fade away and in so much pain and discomfort. She almost had her last wish , which was to die at home surrounded by her small family but she chose to slip away quietly only an hour after I drove home just after midnight. Right until the end she was asking me to make sure I looked after my dad. I know she is free from pain now but she has suffered for so long it's just not fair.

MiniMouse Sat 02-Apr-16 11:12:54

gillybob What a sad year you've had. Now make sure that you take the time to look after you. flowers

Marelli Sat 02-Apr-16 11:23:46

Oh gillybob, I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. It's been so hard for you all over the last wee while. You will do as your mum wanted you to do for sure, and be there for your dad, as you were for her and your lovely old grandma over the years.
It's awful to see those we love in pain but just be being there with her over the last few weeks will have comforted you both. flowers xx

dustyangel Sat 02-Apr-16 11:31:39

I'm so sorry for your loss gillybob. flowers

kittylester Sat 02-Apr-16 11:37:11

I'm so sorry for your loss gilly. Your mum is at peace now and you have had such a hard time of it lately that you need to look after yourself. Take care flowers

Pittcity Sat 02-Apr-16 12:08:47

Sending virtual hugs and flowers

mollie Sat 02-Apr-16 12:11:20

flowers so sorry gillybob

tanith Sat 02-Apr-16 12:23:45

What sad news sorry for your loss Gillybob flowers

Daddima Sat 02-Apr-16 12:25:46

Sad news, Gillybob. It's always sore to lose your mum, so remember to take time to grieve. I'm sure you'll be there for your dad, and you'll get strength from each other. It's sometimes hard to look for support from other family members if you're struggling, especially if they seem to be having a good day, you can feel you don't want to upset them, or that you need to " be strong".

A happy rising to your mum.

ginny Sat 02-Apr-16 12:38:15

Sorry to hear your sad news. X

Mamie Sat 02-Apr-16 12:49:25

Take care of yourself Gillybob. flowers

BBbevan Sat 02-Apr-16 12:59:23

Really sorry to hear your sad news. Blessings to all your familyflowers

hildajenniJ Sat 02-Apr-16 13:02:17

I'm very sorry to hear your sad news Gillybob. I wasn't there at the end for my mother either. She chose to slip away in the middle of the night, with just night nurses for company. You all looked after her so well, you sound like a really close family. Find comfort in each other. flowersflowers

PRINTMISS Sat 02-Apr-16 15:19:32

Kind thought to you and your family Gillybobflowers

SueDonim Sat 02-Apr-16 15:30:45

I'm so very sorry. flowers

Elegran Sat 02-Apr-16 15:48:10

So sorry to hear that, gillybob, she was so much a part of your life, and coming so soon after the loss of your beloved grandmother it is a double blow. flowers Thinking of you.

Marmight Sat 02-Apr-16 15:57:49

Gillybob flowers. So sorry to hear your Mum has gone. You have had such a hard time recently. Look after yourself now! {{hugs}}

Lona Sat 02-Apr-16 16:03:31

So sad for you gillybob, you've had such a hard time of it. Look after yourself too my dear flowers

Synonymous Sat 02-Apr-16 16:28:10

Condolences and flowers

etheltbags1 Sat 02-Apr-16 16:30:14

So sorry gillybob to hear of your loss, once again it was the dreaded C. I just hope that future generations will be able to cure this terrible plague.

Cherrytree59 Sat 02-Apr-16 17:10:36

So sorry Gillybob
Condolences to you + your family.
Your poor dad will feel so lost
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Indinana Sat 02-Apr-16 17:11:12

Oh gillybob I am so sorry to read this news. You really have been through such sad times with your beloved family these past few months. Please look after yourself now - just rest and give your body and soul time to recover. ((((hugs)))) and flowers.

GillT57 Sat 02-Apr-16 17:37:27

So sorry to hear your about your Mother. flowers

Nana3 Sat 02-Apr-16 17:39:12

Very sincere condolences, please take care of yourself flowers.

shysal Sat 02-Apr-16 17:50:49

flowers Take care of yourself. x

janeainsworth Sat 02-Apr-16 18:06:43

Oh Gilly thinking of you - so soon after your Grandma too xx