My mum died yesterday.

gillybob I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Mum
I hope you can find comfort from memories of the happy times you shared.
Take care of yourself.

Gillybobyou've been a wonderful daughter and granddaughter from as much what you haven't said on here as from what you have said. Look after yourself please.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother. Please take comfort in the knowledge that you are in everyone's thoughts xx

Heartfelt condolences. There are no words as I know only too well. Thinking of you at this very sad time.

Thinking of you at this sad time and sending love and condolences across the miles.

A mum is so special. Take your time over how you feel and know you did what you could. Hard times and take care.

I have no words,so very sorry.

so sorry to hear your sad news. losing a mum is terrible. i can only point to the lovely message you got from TheGlovers1 as that sums up exactly what i wanted to say to you. my deepest condolences to you and all your family.

So so sorry to hear your mum has passed - it's such a sad time watching them fade and often the case that they manage to slip away on their own - all 4 of ours did this despite hours of bedside vigils. Your mum is now free of pain and the coming days will be a time for you and your sister to help your dad and each other through the pain.

Gillybob condolences on the death of your mum. I am so very sorry for your loss.do take care and lean on those in the real and virtual world.

May I add my condolences too.A sad time for you.
I have missed your contributions lately.

You must be exhausted - physically and mentally. Time to accept some TLC for yourself. Sending (((hugs))).

So sorry ti hear of the loss of your dear Mum. I still remember losing mine you move into another life stage-being the oldest.
Try to spoil yourself as much as you can.

So very sorry Gillybob and that you had to see your mum suffer.... sending gentle hugs and Look after yourself xxx

My condolences gilly take care of yourself now.

So sorry to hear your sad news.

Condolences Gilly and so close after losing your Grandmother.

gillybob
What a difficult time you've had recently; so sorry to hear of the death of your mum and sending you condolences.

So very sorry to hear your sad news Gilly take care of yourself

My deepest condolences, gillybob, to you and your family. It's hard to lose a mother, no matter how old we are.

So sorry that your mother suffered for so long, also. She sounds like a very brave woman.

I agree w/ the poster who said to be kind to yourself. What did your mother mean when she asked you to "look after" your dad? Is he ill, too? Or was she asking you to cook and clean for him (hopefully, he has learned to do some of that for himself, while she was ill)?Or did she just mean for you to check on him, now and then, and see that he's ok?

Please don't let her request weigh on you too much. As I'm sure you know, you and your sister can't replace her - you're not supposed to - you've got your own lives to live. If he needs care, please don't hesitate to reach out for professional help - whatever he needs - a nurse, a HV, a cleaning lady (I realize some of this may be prohibitive financially). The point is, once again, be good to yourself, even as you're trying to help your father.

For now, I hope you, your dad and your sister will all pull together and see each other through this.. Peace to you...

So sorry Gillybob.

Gillybob sincere condolences to you and your family. Your mother's suffering is over now and it has been so hard for you to watch. Please be gentle with yourself and give yourself some down time to recover from the awful year you have had. ((Hugs))

So sorry to hear of the loss of your mum gillybob, I know what you are going through, my dad died last week. I am in the middle of organising the funeral and trying to look after myself too. My stomach has been playing up, feeling sick, running to the toilet, not wanting to eat, not being able to sleep, having emotional bursts of crying and wanting company. I'm only saying in case you feel the same way in the next few days.

I did order on my food order, some easy to eat foods, small packets of ready fruit, soup, eggs, crackers and cheese spread etc., nothing too hard on my stomach and too fussy to make.

It's all the small things that have been keeping me awake etc. Once the funeral has taken place, I can't do it again if I feel I have done something wrong or missed something off. But you can get support off your siblings and work out together what is appropriate and what isn't.

Take care of yourself, PM me if you want anytime, let it out and have a good cry.

Sorry Gillybob, know losing your mom is so hard. She is out of pain now and she died knowing she was loved, you all did your best. Look after yourself.?