Some of you may remember me posting 2 years ago! 3 years ago my daughters relationship ended after a violent episode. Her partner left her with my 2 grandsons, 1 yr, and 4 yrs old. She was left to pay the mortgage, and had just started work again. Since then her ex has just disappeared, with no contact at all. Hard to explain to a 4 year old where his daddy has gone.I have been her only means of support, emotionally and looking after the children when she works, doing lots of things with them, and just being there for them. before this happened i had been with my partner for 6 years, not living together, but spending weekends in each others houses. he was very put out that i was spending time with my daughter, and said she was selfish, should step back, even not liking it when she rang and asked me to come round as my grandson was ill. i was at his house at the time. it came to crunch when i invited my daughter over one saturday, without as he put it in a letter not consulting him. we split up but went back after a time. 2 years later he finished with me again by TEXT, because i had booked a sunday , to take the kids to see Santa without discussing it with him. that was a few months ago now but i do feel guilty that he was pushed to the side , and i do understand how he feels. i know in my heart i have to put my grandchildren first. He did have lots of family time with us and was called grandad! they have no other so it hurts that yet again another person in thier life has left. My daughter thinks a lot of him but blames herself. of course i have never told her how he felt. I have made a decision not to go back this time but it still hurts.
Good Morning Friday 19th April 2024