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Update on husbands unacceptable behaviour

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Miss2Mrs Tue 07-Jun-16 07:15:24

A few weeks ago, I posted on here for advice about my husbands behaviour towards me and my children/grandchildren. I had many responses, for which I was extremely grateful. You might like to know what happened next...

I spoke to the National Helpline for Domestic Abuse who confirmed what everyone else said and opened my eyes to what was really going on.

With some fantastic support from my family, I have now moved out and am starting divorce proceedings. I feel so very relieved, although a little sad that my 'forever' relationship turned out to be wrong. I'm enjoying the freedom of living without a bully now, so that more than compensates for the small sadness.

I don't know what the future holds, or even where and how I will live after I leave my temporary accommodation, but I know that I'll be fine ?

Thank you again for your support. X

NonnaAnnie Tue 07-Jun-16 11:59:47

Good news indeed, I wish you all the best, you did the right thing without any doubt.

Wilks Tue 07-Jun-16 12:03:37

Brave lady. I'm so pleased for you. Now you can enjoy the fantastic world out there. All the very best of luck snd keep us posted. ???

NannaM Tue 07-Jun-16 12:52:15

Good for you! Such a tough but courageous decision. Best wishes!

AnnieGran Tue 07-Jun-16 12:53:20

Many congratulations and all my good wishes for the future. It's not easy, I know, but that first step is the worst. Have a lovely peaceful and rewarding life.

marpau Tue 07-Jun-16 12:55:23

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EmilyHarburn Tue 07-Jun-16 13:05:45

Hope you will be very happy. You have got time now to think of all the activities you gave up whilst you brought up your children and the subjects you enjoyed in school all things which you might consider doing now that you are free to follow your own wishes.

All the very best for your future.

tigger Tue 07-Jun-16 13:26:02

Very brave lady, I know from experience it takes a lot of courage. How nice to be able to eat what you like; when you like, same with television, reading, going out, all sorts of things many of us take for granted without being accountable to anyone. And the peace and the relief......

harrigran Tue 07-Jun-16 13:48:56

Best wishes for the future, brave decision.

Jumbly01 Tue 07-Jun-16 14:10:09

Well done there, it takes a lot of guts after a lot of abuse to walk away. Be proud of yourself as you face your future which can only get better each day.

hapgran Tue 07-Jun-16 14:29:40

It is always good to get an update and also good to know that comments from gransnetters were so helpful and actually shone a light on your situation for what it was. We can't always see things clearly ourselves when we are entrenched...

DianneAngel Tue 07-Jun-16 14:53:42

Congratulations on the start of your new life. I would advise (from my and other's experience ) that when you feel ready to get councelling for the abuse that you have suffered. It will have lasting effects. Good luck for your exciting future. hugs

Kayteeb53 Tue 07-Jun-16 15:20:03

Be proud of yourself for talking control of your life

sussexoldbag Tue 07-Jun-16 15:20:52

Well done Miss2Mrs! How courageous and positive you are to take action. I wish you much happiness and peace of mind.

carerof123 Tue 07-Jun-16 16:20:30

what a brave lady you are,i wish you all the happiness in the world with lots of loving support from your children grandchildren and family and friends.

Cherrytree59 Tue 07-Jun-16 16:42:05

Well done miss2mrs
You are one brave lady!
'Onwards and upwards'.
I'm sure that the first step was the hardest.
Hopefully the next steps will be easier.
flowers

sarahc446655 Tue 07-Jun-16 16:50:49

I've never believed in putting men down - that should be left to vets.
(Incidently are are many women who are far worse than any men - just in the interest if balance, which is quite hard to find generally.)

Rosina Tue 07-Jun-16 17:13:43

well done, and every good wish for a happy future.

rafichagran Tue 07-Jun-16 18:46:02

Best Wishes and very well done. I wish you well in the future.

oznan Tue 07-Jun-16 18:49:26

Well done and thank you for updating us.You have taken the big,courageous step;the rest will be a little easier now.Warm wishes for your future happiness and freedom.

harrysgran Tue 07-Jun-16 19:14:33

So glad you are in a better place now it won't be easy and you will feel sad I left an abusive man after 27 years Iwas very scared at times and I did feel I'd made a mistake once or twice mainly as it was difficult financially but now 6 years on I still pinch myself as I can't believe I've actually done it and I'm happier and feel more relaxed and content with my life than I could of ever imagined I wish you a happy future and well done you should be very proud of yourself.

Bez1989 Tue 07-Jun-16 20:44:38

Very Best Wishes in Your New Life,
Miss2Mrs.
Change your name by Deed Poll and you'll
feel Tons Better IMO.

Granfran Tue 07-Jun-16 23:13:54

So many positive messages here wishing you the very best. This is your time! You matter and you have the right to be happy. Look forward and not back and know that we all respect and admire you xx

baNANAGran3 Tue 07-Jun-16 23:54:48

You know what, the other day I was reading a thread that turned a bit nasty and I thought what am I doing on here. But having read this one I thought what wonderful support there is, really lovely messages. I too send you the very best of wishes Miss2Mrs and may life be happy for you now.

narrowboatnan Wed 08-Jun-16 00:40:04

Well done. It takes courage to up sticks and leave. You are one brave lady. Now you can be yourself, please yourself and get on with your life - and enjoy your grandchildren. Onwards and upwards! flowers

rubylady Wed 08-Jun-16 01:49:53

Well done Miss2Mrs. I did the same thing 15 years ago and not one day have I regretted it. Yes, at times it has been the hardest thing to do to be a single parent, but I'd rather be without him as he didn't pull his weight in many departments anyway, plus he was violent. Good on you, look to the future, be good to yourself and plan some nice things for the forthcoming months. One thing is, when it comes to like Christmas (sorry!) then change what you would normally do and take on some new traditons of your very own. Learn to have a new life, it's exciting and scary but worth every second, enjoy! flowers