Update on husbands unacceptable behaviour

Thank you for updating us and I'm glad you think we helped. Stay with us and join in other threads.

If you have looked at other threads, you will have noticed quite a bit of unpleasantness but GN is generally a great place to be.

Good luck for your future.

Glad things are improving for you. Take one day at a time and I wish you well for the future.

You have taken a brave step - so glad that you found the right advice both here and from the helpline. The "fantastic support" from your family is good to hear.

I am so glad your family is supporting you so well. I wish you all the best in the future

Good for you, no one should have to live with that sort of treatment. Your life can only get better now, good luck!
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Hope your future now has more in it. All the very best.

Good for you in making that move. It is a huge step but you have done it now and can look forward with help from everyone.

What a brave lady you are. I salute you and hope all goes well

Well done, I'm sure you've done the right thing, and I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision to make. Life will settle down and improve now, especially as you have the support of your family. And you can enjoy your grandchildren without fear of reprisals!

I wish you all the happiness you deserve . Perhaps your message here will help give courage to another downtrodden woman to break the circle of abuse and leave for a better life

Definitely the best decision to take and the very best of luck for the future. You are fortunate that you have a caring family.

What a very courageous decision, and not an easy one, whatever the circumstances. Divorce is a bit like a bereavement and there is bound to be pain and distress, but nothing ever beats the 'Aahh' moment of recognising that you can go home without a feeling of dread and to know that you can make your own decisions freely. Congratulations and all the best for your future.

Congratulations on your courageous decision.

My late sister left her bully of a husband after 37 years. She never looked back and had ten happy years with a French retired bank manager she met at a twinning group. She travelled the world and lived life to the full.

Good luck.

Thank you for updating us. I kept thinking about you & hoping you were well.
Uu have done a brave thing & I know your life will be much happier in the long run.
Very best of luck- enjoy the rest of your life.
hugsxx

I'm so pleased for you Miss2Mrs, and I wish you lots of happiness. It was brave to open up on here in the first place, and that decision to leave must have taken even more courage. I wish there could be a national register of domestic bullies, as with CS Abusers, that could be consulted before committing to a relationship. Many of these men are so charming to start with.....

Well done. I've never been married to a bully but I have had them in close family and it is a hiding to nothing to expect them to change. They don't want to. Removing yourself from the situation is almost always the only realistic solution but it is not easy to do.
Your life is your own now and I hope you enjoy it.

Miss2Mrs

Excellent news! Well done you, Miss2Mrs! Move forward. Don't look back etc. etc. You deserve to live freely without someone else controlling you. Whatever your circumstances are now, it has to better than before

fantastic news - congratulations on your bravery. it takes a lot to come out of any relationship and i hope you'll be happy in the future when it's all decided.

Well done you. Doesn't it feel good? It took me 9 years to get away from my violent husband. Unfortunately back then - in the 70's - the police didn't get involved and I didn't know of a Domestic Violence Helpline. Maybe change your username to Mrs2Miss
All the very best to you.

Oh thank goodness and well done. I nearly left my abusive bully of an ex-husband so many times, then ironically, he left me for someone else.
He won't have changed, so she would have got a nasty shock...!
I was only 35 at the time and in the 22 years since then I've run a business from home, then built myself a completely new career in education.

Life has been much kinder to me than he was. I've had close relationships but never moved anyone in with me, which suits me fine. Be aware that you don't need a man to validate you, this seems to be the reason so many women slip in to abusive relationships over and over again.
(I should add that I'm still friends with the men I had close relationships with, all of them so genuine and much nicer than the ex!)

That must have taken a lot of courage but was the right move to make. It is a huge disappointment when any relationship breaks but the plus side is that sense of relief.
I put up with 40 years of it because for 30 years it was never 'bad enough' to merit asking him to leave. He went at last and the feeling of peace which came over me the first morning I came downstairs and he wasn't here was overwhelming and has never left me.
Wishing you all the luck in the world.

I have thought about you and wondered what had transpired a number of times. I'm so glad to hear good news of you. Wishing all the best to you. You're a courageous lady. Thanks so much for the update.

Well done Miss2Mrs.
You have a happy future ahead of you with your family,and best of all,it is your own future and you can decide how it goes.
I wish you well.