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What age did you find love 2nd time around

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Kacee Mon 05-Dec-16 12:57:07

After 40 years and age 62 I find myself single again, not by my choice.

Do I just accept that this is it now and learn to get on with it or do I maybe look forward to meeting someone else.

What age and where did you find love 2nd time around?

Christinefrance Mon 05-Dec-16 17:32:22

Met and married my second husband age 59. I had been alone for 10 years but was not unhappy with this. It's a comfort to know I can live quite happily either alone or with a partner.

My present husband ( to misquote Terry Wogan ) put an ad in the paper saying 1946 model looking for new partner, previous owner changed to wind instrument. I like a man with a sense of humour.

Anniebach Mon 05-Dec-16 17:54:12

Keep counting the positives Kacee

vampirequeen Mon 05-Dec-16 20:28:16

I was 49 when I met my DH.

Lyndylou Mon 05-Dec-16 21:11:06

I was married 25 years then on my own for 5 years. I was quite happy living alone, it was my children who suggested I start dating again and my daughter wrote a profile for me for Match.com. I didn't even list the profile, I paid to join up then wrote an email to someone who seemed to share my interest and we have been together nearly 12 years now. I was 53 and he was 58. Best £30 I ever spent!!

I actually believe you have to spend sometime alone after a long relationship. A new relationship works better if you have had time to learn to be happy in your own skin.

rubylady Tue 06-Dec-16 06:36:39

I'm single, not actively looking for anyone but I do think you have to be open to someone and not closed off if you would go into another relationship. I haven't wanted to for a while now, very happy on my own, too ill to be bothered, but at the same time I would like to have someone who cares, wouldn't we all? So, if someone I think is suitable comes along, then I will see how it goes.

I have had guys asking me out in the last couple of years but none suitable really. Maybe I'm fussier now I am older? Or just know my own mind more after the frogs I've kissed. smile

Thingmajig Tue 06-Dec-16 10:50:54

I met DH (2nd edition) on the internet as we have a mutual penfriend who "introduced" us. I was 40 and had been a busy single parent for years. It was ideal timing really as DD was just about to set off for uni.

We met up (he is from Copenhagen) as friends and slowly developed our relationship. Took much longer to get to the marriage stage with all the travelling! grin

henetha Tue 06-Dec-16 11:34:15

I was 52 when I met the love of my life. It hit me like a bomb going of and changed my life completely. It's over now but I wouldn't have missed it for the world. Life is so dull now by comparison...

Yorkshiregel Tue 06-Dec-16 14:55:32

I haven't any need for another man in my life. The one I got has lasted this long and I really don't think I would take to a replacement. Sure there have been ups and downs, but think of all those memories you would not be able to share with a new model. No, not for me. If it comes down to being on my own or looking elsewhere, I know I can cope on my own being the wife of a man who was often away abroad with the RAF while I stayed home with the children. if I want anything fixed I can always ask one of my three sons to help.

EmilyHarburn Wed 07-Dec-16 16:52:04

Kacee do you have Skype or something similar. If you want more company , and you have gone to U3a, volunteered at the CAB, joined your retired union branch etc. you may like to check out with friends and family how many are on Skype and arrange that its OK to chat with them from time to time. the nice thing about Skype is that it is easy to have a group on at the same time. Max. 25. that is 24 on the screen. When a person speaks their picture flashes. Its good fun and I've enjoyed catching up with people that way.

Good luck.

MissAdventure Sat 31-Dec-16 16:59:04

I feel the same as henetha
Met who I considered to be the love of my life in my late 40s, and again, its now over
I wont be in a rush to ever open myself up to that kind of hurt again.
Luckily I rather like being alone, so will be sticking with it for the foreseeable future.

GrandmaMoira Mon 09-Jan-17 18:20:14

I divorced my first husband after 23 years and met my second within one year when I was 44. Though I hadn't wanted a man around, it worked out well with him. He died when I was 57 and had seven years on my own now. Ideally I'd like a male friend for outings, maybe holidays, but not to live together.