I wonder if anyone out there can advise me? It's about my cousin-my closest remaining relative.
He's 62, and has had mental health problems all his life. He's been heavily medicated since his late teens, and left work when he was about 25, on some sort of breakdown pension.
He's an only child, and had a lot of attention growing up, from family, friends and neighbours. He was mollycoddled somewhat by his mother, my mother and our gran, never left home, never learned to drive. He didn't really ever become independent.
He self-harmed quite a bit when younger, but no longer does this. At last his health, both physical and mental, is relatively stable and he seems happier. He has a brilliant social worker and care team, and other members of the community who help him out with meals, shopping trips etc. I believe most of these people are genuine.
He is not wealthy, but has some money and a house, having inherited from his mother 7 years ago. He doesn't spend much on clothes, food or heating. He spends quite a lot on his health, going privately for treatment, and some money on technology (he has 4 tablets and a computer, for example).
However I'm worried about two "friends" in particular. This couple started off by cleaning for him and doing odd jobs, but now my cousin seems to be completely dependent on them. He moans about them stealing from him one week (no evidence) and overcharging him for work; the next week he won't have a bad word said about them and they're best of friends again.
He doesn't confide in me or our other cousin, who lives locally. He sometimes listens to his social worker, but not always.
I'm fairly sure he's being exploited by this couple and there are a few others who've"befriended" him. He's vulnerable but seems to enjoy the attention of these people even though he must surely know that he's being exploited.
I don't live locally but visit regularly. I'm unable to keep an eye on things and in any event he's cagey with the information he gives me. I've spoken to his social worker about his capacity to make decisions. She agrees that he makes poor decisions but that, technically, as he has his faculties, he has "capacity" in the legal sense.
She too, is generally cagey about my cousin's situation and I feel somewhat shut out of the discussions.
Is there anything I can do? I feel I should be doing something but I feel powerless to help....
Any advice?
Thanks.
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