50 ways to save a marriage

After having tried all those for the past 60 odd years, I can strongly advise you to use your common sense!

Thanks, Teetime and janea!

Just skimmed through, will read closer later. But I can say, for now, that dh and I already do many of these, a few others would work for us and a few, absolutely not! For example, sometimes I need "space" from an argument. If I stay with it, "gentle" or not, it starts to deteriorate. Taking some time out, gives us both a chance to calm down and maybe come up with solutions.

"Heal" dh? I don't think Iv ever done or said anything that harmful and vv. Also, sometimes, dh doesn't want to be "healed/" feel better/calm down right away. He needs to sort of process his anger on his own if that makes any sense.

But, overall, good advice, imo.

I only got to number 7! ? No wonder I'm single! ?

What is that song? "Wives and Lovers!"

"Hey, little girl, comb your hair, fix your make-up, soon he will open the door,
Don't think because there's a ring on your finger, you needn't try any more.
For wives should always be lovers too, Run to his arms the moment that he comes home to you."

From that 50 list I get
"#7.Make sacrifices for your spouse. Drop everything when they call, forgo things for them, try to put them first in all your decisions."

Well that is no good when there is no reciprocation and it's all about him.

Exactly nellie!

Hopefully, they meant it to go both ways. Otherwise, I agree, no good.

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What a very long, boring unrealistic list. I wonder if the list is aimed at people who are just starting off married life or those who haven't been married long?

I've been married for 40 years, together 42. I'm guilty of some of the "don't"s on the list, and so is my husband. We're fine, though.

Why has this ancient thread appeared ?

It would be interesting to know who created these and what hidden agenda they had. Some sound eminently reasonable but others seem almost judgemental I think and pushing a certain type of relationship.