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Do you have close relationships with your siblings?

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spanishsue Sat 04-Mar-17 14:49:51

My parents had 3 boys two Years-ish apart, waited 7years then started again and had another boy and 22 months later....... me the only girl and youngest! When I was little the older 3 all took notice of me but after leaving home and marrying, moving, etc, my Mum was the only one who saw any of them. One has died, the 2nd lives miles away, the 3rd lives in a nearby town and the youngeat just 5 minutes away. But I don't see any of them, they don't communicate at all. If I contact them, they are civil to me but no arrangements are ever made to meet up. I know of their offspring through Facebook and see them occasionally. Families eh! My husband is the eldest of 4 and they are always falling out with each other but always meet up a couple of times a year.

Barmyoldbat Sat 04-Mar-17 12:16:48

I am the eldest of of four girls. Never got on with one of them, even as a child so I just don't bother with contact, yet get on really well with her two children. My other two sisters live a fair distant away but we are fairly close, keeping in contact by facebook mostly and meet up now and again.

Bellasnana Sat 04-Mar-17 11:42:55

I was the youngest of three sisters, the other two being 4 and 11 years older than me. We were the best of friends, extremely close, even when separated by distance, and were always there for each other.

I consider myself truly blessed to have had such a loving relationship with my siblings, but oh how hard it is now they have gone. My middle sister died ten years ago aged 54 and my eldest just five months ago aged 71, both due to breast cancer.

I miss them both dearly. sad

annodomini Sat 04-Mar-17 10:34:46

I'd say that my two sisters are my best friends though we don't see enough of each other. My sister from NZ and I go on trips together when she comes over here or I go there. I visit my sister in Scotland a couple of times a year but we speak on the phone at least weekly. Of course we have disagreements - spats, even - but we have far more that unites us than divides us.

glammanana Sat 04-Mar-17 10:24:59

I am the eldest of 5 (20mins older than my twin brother) and 3 younger sisters.
My second sister and I have not spoken for nearly 20yrs when she decided to advise my eldest son's partner about her pregnancy,she had always been listened to with regard her views and took offence when told to mind her own families business not mine,I have tried many times to mend bridges with no response from her and I do miss her dreadfully.
I keep in touch with my other 2 sisters but never see them often as they live in different parts of the Country my brother and I keep in touch he arrives here on a regular basis for a pan of scouse when he has been bowling with his pals.

grannypiper Sat 04-Mar-17 10:13:45

I am the youngest of 4 by 10 years, my brother is 10 years older than me and we get on just fine but i am much closer to his wife as we were in the same class at school. My eldest sister is 16 years older than me and if we meet in town we speak but i dont like her one bit,as a youngster i used to be sent to stay with her and her family at weekends so had quite an insight to her behaviour. She really is the most nastiest, manipulative liar i have ever come across. The one good thing that came out of staying with her was that she taught me how not to be. My other sister was 13 years older than me and so different from my other sister, she would have given a stranger her last penny.She had a wild side too but she put that down to her Red hair.

JackyB Sat 04-Mar-17 09:53:06

I have a sister. We would never argue (e.g. about inheritances or such), in fact my mother and I are both the kind to keep well out of the way for any kind of argument. I've never had an argument with anyone in my life.

My sister has a little more of our Dad and I sometimes feel she is scolding me, just like he would have done - as much the unsaid things as the things said. However, we are both basically in agreement on all practical things and she is the perfect aunt and great-aunt to my DGC and DC, not having any children of her own.

So, generally, I am quite happy with the situation.

Anniebach Sat 04-Mar-17 08:58:26

I have three sisters and a brother all younger. Two sisters live in the same town one four miles outside of town, brother lives three miles outside town. Always a close group untill a disagreement this year, our children also are very close with their cousins

ninathenana Sat 04-Mar-17 08:40:41

Growing up my older brother spoke to me when he had to as in "pass the salt" and then very grudgingly. When we left home all I knew of his life was what mum told me. Then after his divorce and moving around the world he moved in with mum and bought her council house and a few years later mum needed care. We then became closer but not "close"
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f77ms Sat 04-Mar-17 08:24:19

I have one sister who is my best friend , we live close so see each other a couple of times a week , go on holiday together etc. She is the first person I turn to when I have a problem , I do realise how lucky I am . We have never had a cross word . I can`t really understand how people can fall out with their siblings .

gillybob Fri 03-Mar-17 23:47:10

That's nice Luckygirl smile I only have one (younger) sister who was my mums favourite (I was the one who got pregnant at 17) and gave my parents their grandchildren and great grandchildren

My sisters name was always prefixed with "poor" and I always had to be the hard one.

My sister is far stronger than me in real life as she only ever does what SHE wants to do when SHE wants to do it. I am a complete pushover.

Luckygirl Fri 03-Mar-17 21:45:04

I have a sister and a brother and get on really well with both of them. We all make contact with each other regularly - email and phone - and see each other 2 or 3 times a year. We have all had our share of life's problems and have been there for each other. We had a funny upbringing with a constant undercurrent of psychological warfare between our parents and I think that drew us together. I know that we all value each other.

Grannybags Fri 03-Mar-17 21:24:39

I am the youngest of five, three brothers and a sister. There's only my sister and I still alive now so we make the effort to keep in touch. She's 8 years older than me so we were never that close growing up. It seems the older we get, the smaller the age gap seems to be!

downtoearth Fri 03-Mar-17 21:00:23

I have one brother, we live over 100 miles apart but we speak regularly and have similar sense of humour we meet up 2-3 times a year.He will ring to tell of a funny anecdote,or a problem ,and I do to him.
My OH isnt close to his sister but they ring and are friendly with each other,I am fond of my 2 SIL and my BIL

Maimeo Fri 03-Mar-17 20:50:48

I have no sisters and always wished I had - though friends with sister laugh when I say that and say "do you want mine!". I have three brothers and I'm the eldest. I have to say in fairness that my youngest brother, who lives in the States, and I are closer than I am with the other two, who live in the same city as me. I guess it's usually sisters who keep up family interaction, and men are usually fairly hopeless. But it hurts a bit that I could leave months go by and they wouldn't contact me to check I'm ok?

kittylester Fri 03-Mar-17 20:34:37

After years of not speaking to my two brothers (caused by mum's machinations) we have become very close through looking after her.

DH and his brothers were close ish but two of his brothers seem to be getting a little odd!

KatyK Fri 03-Mar-17 20:16:48

I have three sisters and one brother. My older sister doesn't speak to any of us and I speak to my brother occasionally. My two younger sisters are my best friends.

merlotgran Fri 03-Mar-17 19:56:48

I'm closer to my younger brother than my older one because we grew up together whereas my older brother was away at boarding school because of Dad's overseas postings.

We all get on very well though.

tanith Fri 03-Mar-17 19:48:22

My sisters were all older than me the older two 10 and 15yrs older so we weren't close, the other sister and I are much closer since her husband passed away, but I'm not close to my brother even though we lived in the same road for 15yrs now he's moved away we don't communicate , his wife visits her friend up the road and we've bumped into each other a couple of times but thats about it a shame but there it is.

MissAdventure Fri 03-Mar-17 19:34:56

My sister and I get on well when we're together, but things have been strained at times as her husband used to be very military about everything.
I think we've trained him out of it now, but they live in France, so we rarely see each other.

Maimeo Fri 03-Mar-17 19:27:13

Just wondering about how others feel about their relationship with their brothers or sisters. I've been reading a lot of the estrangement threads with great sympathy for so many GNs on here who carry around their sadness about their lack of contact with family members, in some cases for many years. But it occurred to me that I might as well be "estranged" from my brothers as we have no closeness at all really. I make all the phone calls and suggestions about meeting up, and they don't appear to care if I do or not. There is no animosity but no real family feeling either.

On the other hand, I am very close to my husbands siblings, and they to each other, although they fight, fall out, and make up again on a regular basis!

Aren't families different?!