New partner in later life

Well his body has got old as well remember, never thought mens bodies were up to much after about 30 anyway lol just do what you feel is right for you in the most relaxed way you can, maybe he is feeling the same way & is worried too, don't let this keep you from going forward with your lives.

SunnySusie, no, you're not the only one. I've lost whatever claims to beauty I may have had - a slender waist, an English rose complexion, natural blonde hair. The waist - gone somewhere else. English rose complexion doesn't last as long as the Mediterranean type skin (how did those memsahibs cope in India?) Hair is still natural blonde but less and less of it. Headcovering is essential not for religious reasons!

DH had survived not one but two disastrous marriages. I threw him a lifeline, but he had to learn to trust me.

We did our best to find a solution to impotence caused by diabetes - we never did find one. We've both had a lot of different kinds of surgery in the intervening 19 years so, essentially, it hasn't mattered. Yes, it has been much more about the closeness and the cuddles, of reaching a hand out to find he's still there, of being there for each other, just the comfort. Time is obviously running out for us very fast but we've had this last 2 decades and we still have little adventures together.

You say you don't get much privacy. To me in a way that gives you the opportunity for an ' adventure '. Book a hotel in you next town or lovely place nearby. Have a meal,dress up to make to a special date, get your hair done, and a glass or two of Dutch courage and see where it goes.

Sounds like you are in love. That's wonderful.

Your son is bang out of order. Just ignore his comments. I'm surprised he's even thinking it. Most young people think sex stops at 40. They can't imagine that it can be even more wonderful as we get older.

Don't put yourselves under any pressure. If you feel ready then go the whole way. If not just do whatever you're comfortable with and let the physical side develop gradually.

Have a weekend away. If money is an issue the updated Travelodge beds are comfortable. If you can't find an updated Travelodge then use a Premier Inn (they do a better breakfast too). How about a weekend coach trip? Visiting places will take your mind off the real reason you're away and help you to relax.

Magrete, as I always tell people, I had a 21 inch waist when I got married, it's still there but now it is being protected by other layers lol

I was 7 1/2 stone when we married 47 years ago, I tell DH he now has 50% extra free, he likes it, he says!

Curtains drawn then .... Couple of candles flickering!

Good luck to you both!

I have many reasons why I just can't be bothered to find a new partner.
However, I think it's great for you and wish you both well. With all the experience that life has brought you and the inevitable decline from once being a great beauty (!) I'm sure he will accommodate a few wrinkly/droopy bits - I look at my own wreck of a body and despair.
What about a nice weekend away and take it from there? If it happens, it happens and if it doesn't, no harm done. Take things at your own pace.

I agree.. candles, and some good wine/champagne but not too much! And don't eat a big dinner beforehand or you will be wishing for some Zantac at the most inconvenient time!

Enjoy! (am sure you will)

VALERIAN. ....Sounds Great for you both.
For your privacy tell your "visitors" to stay somewhere else for a weekend. After all its your house !! Don't waste time going out for a meal. Fish & chips and your drinks of choice. No wasting time getting home then. I met my second husband in my early 50's. We were having a kiss&cuddle on my sofa when I said " I've had a good idea" and took him to my bedroom. We've been together for over 30 years, married, and we sometimes comment about my good idea.
E N J O Y.

What colour is he going to paint the dog?

Just think how lucky you to have this chance of happiness and some great sex.
If your lucky he may bend you over the hostess trolley and beat you on the bottom with a woman's weekly

Valeriej- that's just lovely to read. You do sound quite excited and why not. I like that your son is teasing you in a fun way... he obviously approves.

Whatever happens, do enjoy this time. Spring is in the air, etc. .

Don't put it off. Life is too short, and we can't predict tomorrow. You will both feel even more 'loved up' when you begin your sex life together. All that lovely Oxytocin in your systems ❤️❤️?

Go for it! I have a friend who's in a similar relationship and she just gets on with with it. In fact, when it came to sex she was the one who took the lead.

I haven't seen her so happy since she was widowed ten years ago. A cliche I know, but life is short - enjoy each day. xx

Go for it ! Life is so short we all deserve a bit of happiness ! Go away for a weekend or a week, somewhere you both love ( or choose a completely new place to go together !)

Have fun ...don't worry ! Be happy you never know what's round the corner .....

What a lovely, happy thread! I wish you both much happiness xx

Go for it! I was 50 when I got together with OH and he was 35!. Still happily together after 18 years and he is preening himself as he is the one who lasted longest. He still fancies me and I him, notwithstanding bits going South for both of us.

Someone said lubrication. Oh yes. Play by Durex,but not the tingly one, it had both of us rushing for the bidet!

Good luck Valerian and have great fun and keep a sense of humour

What a lovely post good luck to you both ?

how brilliant that you have found someone that feels the same about you as you do about him. Go for it! That is something that is hard to find at any age, let alone ours. I wish you so much love and luck. Has made me feel a bit teary. What is wrong with me?

Once again thank you all, my son was only joking,he says go for it, he wasnt being critical, probably me being a bit sensitive
We both have sons that have returned home for various reasons, mine is off work at the moment due to having mini strokes and accident at work, and his due to moving up north, both only temporary
We had some time together this afternoon, just cuddles, but lovely, neither of us have had much actual affection, for quite a while, so taking it slowly, but the anticipation is lovely,
Much nicer than young men trying to rush things
I wish i had met him years ago, but in a way, think i will get the best of him now
We are hoping to plan something for next month, some time away, where we can relax and enjoy each other,
We both feel like teenagers, cant believe how lucky i am, never thought i would ever feel like this again,especially at my age
It goes to show,its never too late to find love

Good luck Kitspurr, I'm exactly the same !! Been looking 5 years since I was 45 but its a tricky business.... Well done and much joy to those who manage to find the 'right one'.. xx

I was single a LONG time and used to hang on to this song whenever I felt down about it. After the lyrics (fr 1974 performed by the group America) is a bit about the song's history that I never knew, I just liked the comforting easy music and hopeful lyrics!

Lonely People

This is for all the lonely people
Thinking that life has passed them by
Don't give up
Until you drink from the silver cup
And ride that highway in the sky

This is for all the single people
Thinking that love has left them dry
Don't give up
Until you drink from the silver cup
You never know until you try

Well, I'm on my way
Yes, I'm back to stay
Well, I'm on my way back home

This is for all the lonely people
Thinking that life has passed them by
Don't give up
Until you drink from the silver cup
She'll never take you down or
Never give you up
You'll never know until you try

Songwriters
CATHERINE L. PEEK, DANIEL M. PEEK

Dan Peek is quoted in Wiki that he wrote it in reply to the pessimistic Eleanor Rigby by the Beatles. It was a metaphor which means: "It's possible to drink from another's well of experience...and be refreshed."

How lovely for you! Enjoy!

I'm in my 60s and newly single, having just divorced my husband because of his serial cheating. There's a local man I really like (unmarried) and I think he likes me. Sends me texts at all hours of the day and night saying he's thinking about me, hopes I'm ok, etc. Always ends them with at least 2 kisses. If I bump into him in the street he always hugs and kisses me. Now, I could just let this situation carry on ad infinitum, but I'm going to invite him over for a meal soon and see if anything develops...