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Should I say anything to my friend?

(61 Posts)
MissAdventure Fri 14-Jul-17 09:38:04

I'd keep an eye on them at the next 'do' and go and interject by planting myself between them, if necessary. Just for a chat..

rosesarered Fri 14-Jul-17 09:35:27

Ah! The demon drink.?
A lot of people become flirty at 'do's' ( a bit of a do!) don't worry about it.

Anya Fri 14-Jul-17 09:32:05

Not to worry. I once proposed to my best friends husband at a BBQ where the wine was flowing freely.

Thereafter she always referred to him as 'your financé' when talking to me about him.

Christinefrance Fri 14-Jul-17 09:13:58

I agree with VQ , probably just the result of too much alcohol. Some people are more touchy feely than others as well. Forget what you saw, you could cause a lot of harm by saying something.

gillybob Fri 14-Jul-17 09:07:07

I'm with yggdrasil and think you should keep out of it. The hand on knee might be nothing at all. Was she rubbing his knee provocatively or just placing her hand there? If they are having a wild affair they are not being very secret about it are they? You could be horribly wrong and cause an untold amount of damage by saying something.

tanith Fri 14-Jul-17 09:06:24

I agree stay right out of it, they shoot the messenger don't forget grin

mumofmadboys Fri 14-Jul-17 09:05:12

I would keep it to myself and say nothing.

vampirequeen Fri 14-Jul-17 09:03:38

Stay out of it. Flirting when drunk isn't worth mentioning and upsetting everyone.

Anniebach Fri 14-Jul-17 09:01:52

Why not talk to the husband ?

yggdrasil Fri 14-Jul-17 09:00:47

My personal thoughts are that, even if it happened in your garden, it is none of your business. I wouldn't appreciate anyone telling me gossip like that. You didn't see anything except behaviour you interpret as flirting. Just forget all about it.

minimo Fri 14-Jul-17 08:42:38

We are very fortunate in having a lot of lovely local friends and last weekend we hosted a bbq with a few people for my DH's birthday. Because I think it's best to keep anonymity I'm going to change their names but my good friend 'Sue' and her husband 'Mike' were there - we see them a lot. Another couple were also there (let's call them Simon and Caroline). Near the end of the evening Caroline and Mike were sitting very close together chatting and for a few moments I saw her hand on his leg. There had been a fair bit of alcohol consumed but I don't drink so was I think more aware than most and there was some definite flirting going on.

I don't think Sue noticed - she certainly didn't say anything but now I don't know what to do. It was at my party so I feel partly not responsible but I don't know....I feel guilty because it happened on my turf. But also, there's nothing to suggest anything went any further but of course we do all see each other quite a lot and I know what I saw. If they have the opportunity when other people aren't around...

Do I warn Sue? She and Caroline aren't particularly close. I don't want to get involved of course but equally I really don't want to see my friend hurt. I think I'd want a friend to let me know if she saw something similar? Would you? Been stewing all week sad