Holidays

The problem here is also that my husband pays his children so much anyway, because he is divorced, and I feel that I don't get a proper holiday at all, so to be informed that our couple of days away was "expensive" when it really was not, takes the biscuit.

Starlady - that is exactly what went through my mind, and your comment is so helpful.

Did you resent him asking that Humber?

It isn't just a 'step' thing. We recently had a new front door fitted and my son asked me how we could afford it as they are 'very expensive'!

Maybe it was the way it was asked that made it seem more than an enquiry in order to see if UK holidays are expensive as compared with foreign /package holidays?

Good point, Anya - it seems OP is entitled to know the cost of her SD's holiday but the reverse doesn't hold true!

It seems OP knows exactly how much SD's holiday is costing so there must have been a discussion about holidays and costs somewhere along the line??

Feel free to disagree Nina - I'm just catching a touch of something a little anti SD here.

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What Starlady saiGN

I'm not usually brave enough to disagree with anyone on GN but I don't see that here Anya OP is simply asking if SD is being nosey

As an outsider I'm seeing a 'wicked stepmother' in the making!

I'm not a stepmum, but I think it was nosey, too. However, I see you know what she's paying for her upcoming holiday. Is it the norm in the family to discuss the cost of each other's vacations, etc? If so, she might not have thought she was doing anything out of the way, even though, imo, it was.

About her saying your vacation was "expensive." Was it intended as a criticism, do you think, or just an observation? Since, apparently, she spends a lot on holidays herself, she might not think there's anything wrong with yours being "expensive." Or she might think you spent a lot for a B & B, NOT that it's any of her business,

Or perhaps your dh has criticized what she spends on holidays, and this was her way of giving him a taste of his own medicine? Maybe not, just asking.

Am I right in thinking that you didn't raise sd and that's why you turned the question over to dh? If so, then, imo, you were very wise. I just wish he had said, "That's private." But again, perhaps they're used to sharing this kind of information? You might want to discuss this with him.