Eventually it feels and sounds like nagging

We all agree that to talk about a problem with a partner is the first step to opening up a troubling issue and hopefully take steps together to resolve it. Comunicate, discuss, talk, negotiate......they are all words full of expectation and promise. But what happens when the other person flies into a rage or refuses to listen or, as in the case of my previously very communicative husband, simply deflects all attempts to confront even a small issue as he finds it difficult and stressful. Eventually it feels like, and must sound like, nagging each time one tries to approach the subject.