Sorry to hear your probs &Sugarpuff* xx
Bugys The way I talk about my s.i.l & his mother is AFTER the cut out. I had no probs with him or his mother, didn't know they had a prob with me till then. And yes I cannot lie, I hate them, now. They destroyed my family, they brainwashed my once lovely D, and I cannot believe she is happy with what she's done, she has no one in her life to turn to when he & his mother turn on her. When this first happened, I believe, planned when my niceD & I were on holiday together [they were invited] My estD & her H had a big argument [this is were my cut out stems from] she ran out with the C in a double buggy, it torrential rained, so she phoned him to pick her up, he refused, she said things she shouldn't have & his mother got her picked up by the police and put in a mental hospital. When assessed to have just the 'baby blues' they phone her H to have her released into his care & he said NO! I don't want her back All this time he was phoning me every half hour & I was bigging him up, saying he was a good dad & husband^ believing his lies about my poor incarcerated D, they had had her sectioned, so could only be released into someone's care! I of course came home & after this learnt the truth nature of my D's H.
She curled up with me like a baby, really traumatized. I made the mistake of mediating between them, saying to him that it's the mother that keeps the home & C if they break up, with that he took my D back & cut me out!
vehemently !? strange use of word!? It was only after, when accused of favouritism, I had to admit I did have a very special bond with my GD, but still loved & adored my GS just the same, always treating them the same. To be honest, it was my D that didn't bond with her Son, didn't want to hold him when he was born. This scenario was turned onto me, I just couldn't understand why they would say such a thing, until the penny dropped. There were many more incidence like this to follow, where nasty s.i.l would turn a situation from one person onto another, usual me, he just lied continually, which is a well know trait of 'pot' smokers & cocaine sniffers.