Unexpected consequences of moving home...

Thirty years ago a move 300 miles from my roots to a different environment, changed my life completely. I often wonder if I did the right thing. I will never know. All I can think of now is my life so good that I have these thoughts.?

No-one should ever feel they have to ‘shadow’ someone else’s life, I’d have got rid of him well before wasting years doing that. But never too late to do something positive, I wonder what his take on it is?!

When my children left home, I was very surprised by the change that made to my finances. For 20 years I had always been in the red at the end of the month - now I can afford to put some aside each month. (not that it gets me anywhere with the present interest rates)

Danni, I don't agree that unhappiness is meant for anyone, things happen, good or bad, no one is singled out for one or the other.

Annie - I like "If it's meant for you it won't pass you by" but my latest saying that I use frequently is "It is what it is".

My life has changed this year as I am living alone for the first time ever, which is a major life change not really planned by me, but I love it.

Annie. I love that quote. Very apt.

We moved 80 miles away for a fresh start a year ago and it has been a positive move. Although we lived in the middle of a big, busy city I felt very isolated but now we live in an isolated village and I’m happy as a sandboy! I’m busy exploring our new county, meeting up regularly with my GN friend (who has been a huge help) and generally making a life for myself at last. The added bonus is one difficult relationship has improved and those ‘friendships’ that weren’t working have come to natural conclusions. We don’t see the family so much but when we do it’s much more fun than before.

We can Day ? X

Ha ha! I like that Annie.
It is so true. We can view our lives in many lights, can't we?

Day, do see what in your new town interests you, then you will meet new people, you can still keep your old friends .

Thank you for your kind words, I have a little book of sayings I had years ago from Caldey Island. Read one every night, one I like -

If you are always in the sun you are in the desert . ?

Annie I echo Smileless's sentiments. Life has been so hard on you for some time. I wish you a change of fortune and some peace from suffering.

My long term partner and I bought a place together a few years ago, and moved away from the town we knew to a smaller, more rural place. The house is lovely and we are happy. We are still exploring but the ties/duty/problems/joy of family call us back frequently to what was home for us both, as do our friends, ex colleagues and social functions and the odd committee I sit on, so we are doing a lot more driving! I am winding down my volunteering ties too but hope to get involved with concerns in our new town, in time.

We are both very aware we need to get out more and join things and make new friends. Our lack of contacts in our new home town could become a problem. I have health worries so am having to constantly visit new hospitals and clinics. I feel less secure in some ways. I am also very aware now that we live together that I NEED time alone and that solitude, occasionally, is precious to me. I try not to allow his agenda to get on my nerves! I am sure my constant presence might bother him too but he is good at not showing it!

I guess I am learning how to share, compromise and get out of my comfort zone a bit. That's what moving has taught me.

No it isn't Annie and it does us all good to recognise that from time to time, if not all of the time.

Smileless, learning of the happiness of others is wonderful , proves the world is not all gloom and doom, and it isn't ?

Annieand despite all that you've been through you, here you are expressing your happiness for others. I hope and pray that the new year brings you peace. God bless xx

A year ago I was looking forward to moving house in January, all seemed so positive. Eleven months on, a truly grim eleven months .

So pleased it proved right for you both x x

Moving just over a year ago was the best thing we could have done sandelf. After 4 years of living just yards from our son who estranged himself from us and wouldn't allow us to see our GC, we took the decision to leave the house we'd lived in for 28 years in the village we'd lived in for 30.

We also have a big house, bigger than the one we moved from, a 15 minute walk from the beach, 5 minute walk from a beautiful park and within walking distance of some lovely restaurants.

Our neighbours are lovely and have become really good friends. We now have peace and happiness which we never thought we'd have again. It's simply wonderful.

I'm so pleased that your move has worked out so well for you. Enjoy Christmas in your new home.

Well done on gaining time and finding yourself. Not the same but my life changed when I escaped from the ex. I expected the change but not the wonderful way it's turned out.