Did you have doubts before you got married, and how did it turn out?

I had a terrible sense of foreboding about two weeks before I married. My mother had pushed me into it but I did love him, though I wasn't "in love". It was a disaster, which limped along until I divorced him after 11 years. Sadly I never met anyone else I wanted to marry.

If I had any doubts I wouldn't have got married.

The Wonderful Man I married was as different from me as is possible; I was from the underclass, he was very middle class; I was terminally poor, he had savings (!!); I was divorced, he was single; I was 32, he was 23; his home life had been stable, mine was chaotic. I loved the bones of him and he was my best friend and I believed that, and the Christian faith that we had in common, would be enough for us to make a success of our marriage. And so it has proved - I had no doubts and neither did he and 31 years later we have endured many difficulties, but always pulled together and I still love him to pieces, as he does me.

We married very young. 19 and 20. I was pregnant and many people said it would not last. We have grown up together and are real friends as well as husband and wife. We have two great children and have proved the doubters wrong.

P.s. We have been married 53 years next week

I am bordering on envy but so happy to learn of long happy marriages here

After going out together for 4 yrs since I was 16 we married when I was 20.had my daughter when 22 and divorced when I was 25 things just went wrong once we lived together.
I met my OH when I was 26 and we have been married for 42yrs this next March with 2 more sons.
He is my rock and has always been a great father to all our children and grandpa to the DGCs,nothing is too much trouble and he has supported me in every thing I have wanted to do without question.So no mistakes there.

no doubts,my lovely Dad asked me on the way to the church...he said if you have even the smallest doubt I'll tell the driver to turn round and take us home ,we need never speak of it again.I told him I was sure this was right for me and for my OH.43 years later I feel the same way,I wouldn't change him for the world We've come through some awful things but we're stronger for it

I had no doubts until the night of our wedding day when I realised that my wedding ring felt like a lead weight on my finger. I should have heeded that warning and run for the hills but I didn't. 27 years later I finally escaped.

Unusually for the time, marriage was the last thing that figured anywhere in my life plans until I met DH. I led him a bit of a dance before eventually saying yes, and then only because I woke up to the possibility that we would never see each other again and there would be no second chances. Fifty one years down the line, I have never regretted it.

No doubts whatsoever, we have been together since 1963 and it has always been wonderful. We married with no great expectations from life and we just worked together and made the solid marriage we have.
On my wedding day my mother told me that the door would always be open for me to return, my father on the other hand told me I had chosen the man so I had to get on and work at my marriage.
I often wonder if my mother regretted her marriage, she never seemed happy.

Never give it a thought even though a 20 year age gap. We had a good marriage few hurdles to over come (oh what would your daughter like to drink etc etc ) and when he used to go and pick our dds up from school oh your grandads here"! hmm...

But I would do it all again, we were married for over 35 together for over 40yrs

I've had doubts all the way through our marriage of 20 years but I think when you lose your parents your relatives you have no where to go I'd be careful if people have doubts at the start because that's your brain saying something is wrong

YES ! Both times and how I wish I had listened to my inner voice saying don’t do it !! I have listened closely to my inner voice ever since !

I had no doubts when we married, even though I wasn't in love with him, but he was a good kind man who only had eyes for me and treated me like a queen which felt like heaven after my previous relationship. I loved him for that and I knew he was in love with me. We lived together for 2 years before we married. Both still here 45 years later, two children, and two grandchildren, so something must be right!

I had dreadful nerves the night before we married in 1969 and told DH we could always divorce if it didn't work out! My mother was of the opinion that once married you had to get on with it but both parents had passed away when we had a major blip at 35 years so I don't know what her advice would have been. We survived and both now appreciate what each has brought to the marriage over the years and what we would have lost if we had gone out separate ways.

My hub and self took our marriage vows very seriously, and 54 years down the line have had a long and happy marriage with relatively few ups and downs, just been lucky I guess.

Just passed Golden Wedding, married very young lots of ups and downs but happy together we feel very lucky.

Yes, I had doubts and I married late in life. Fortunately, things have worked out well enough, only the kind of ups and downs that I think are common to all marriages or long term relationships.

Marriage is I think very much a matter of what you make of it, unless one has been very unfortunate in ones choice, which can and does happen. Happily today, very few people feel forced to continue in an unhappy marriage.

May I say, how sorry I feel for the many of you who have husbands changing out of all recognition due to dementia? That must be horribly hard to cope with. Look after yourselves, dear ladies.

I never had any doubts about DH and myself as were like two peas in a pod - very much made for each other. We were married for thirty years before he passed away.
However, I felt a bit uneasy about MIL - she was rather moody, pushy, and childlike - we had nothing in common. She became a problem for BIL as she aged because her character became more exaggerated and they didn't get on either.

I burst into tears in the vestibule of the church on the way in and my darling Dad told me he’d take me home if I didn’t want to marry him. I pulled up my pants, blew my nose and wakes up the aisle. Just a touch of nerves.

It wasn’t easy, we had as many downs as ups (think interfering in laws), but we decided early on to be a team and that’s how we coped.

This year we celebrated our silver wedding anniversary- and 30 years together.

I’m glad to say I married my best friend - he truly is my soulmate.

Yes I did with no 1: I had a baby with him in 1985 and the done thing was to marry from our backgrounds, if not before the birth afterwards asap. I went on to have 4 children including the eldest with him. Finally left him 17 years ago. Ex was violent btw.

No regrets or doubts when I married no 2, 10 years ago, I have known 16 years and been with 15. Took me along time to find my best friend and soul mate and then suddenly there he was ?

Met my 1st husband at 15 married a week after my 18th birthday. He had a bit of a roving eye which worried me a bit but I was besotted with him. He left me 18months later for someone he worked with.
The second time I was really unsure and in hindsight I should have listened to my inner self. He was hard work and although never physically he was quite domineering. We had 2 wonderful daughters together. He left me after 15 years for my friend!!
I was determined never to marry again but less than 2 years later I met my current husband and my sole mate. I love him to bits and we have been married 19 years in May.

Had doubts but wedding plans were too advanced.As soon as the wedding was over I knew it was an awful mistake but stayed together for 25 years,mostly unhappy.
A great relief when he left.

No never any doubt really it’s been a good relationship we have gone through lots of sadness lost our parents and our son. It seem to bring us closer together.
I do think my d got the best idea now for 21st century, has her own apartment and her partner has his own house they meet up, but still have there independence. It’s quite the normal thing to do now.