shell shocked

I am truly sorry for you. If his personality has suddenly changed, it could be that he has early onset dementia or something else which affects how his brain works. You have been a nurse? Do you feel that is a possibility?

Everybody is different but I believe that some people become very aggressive and unreasonable when their brain starts to alter. Add fear about illness and the thought of death into that and you get a very nasty cocktail.

It doesn't make it suddenly easier for you but at least it would be a reason for his nastiness.

I really do wish you all the very best of luck.

Thank you so much for your kind message.He has to go next Tuesday for bloods and if o.k for full day of chemo.I know he must be absolutely terrified.They told him that the chemo and radio would make him feel very ill.It didn't, until the end of it.He said he could fight it off.I don't think he thought he could feel any worse.
I don't know if it is his meds or dementia,you lose a proper view ,when you are with someone all the time.
Just keep going one day at a time.

Best of luck Teddy111!

Thank you .

I have just read this fairly quickly and I would say ill or not his behaviour is nasty and destructive.

Please get proper , professional support.
You should not have to endure this.

Regardless of whether his behaviour is down to the illness you really need some more support from somewhere and if possible a short break, I do realise that is very difficult, maybe speak to the GP on your own behalf. Take care

Oh dear,so long,another blood test yesterday,another MRI 15th Dec. So tired,rang Macmillan for support.We were referred by GP last Friday,they haven't phoned back.37 year old son's fiancee says she loves him but is not in love with him,he is now homeless and penniless.

Teddy, I have only just read this thread. I have no answers for you but did not feel I could merely scroll by.

Re: your son - this happened to a friends son recently and now he has been made redundant too.

Noting your OH's prolonged time in CCU is there any possibility he was oxygen depleted at any time?

I thought that too Izabella.

Oh, Teddy111, it never rains but it pours. I know that we had problems with getting MacMillan support when my MIL had cancer. I'm not sure how but we seemed to slip between the cracks. We went back to the GP and he managed to chase but it was just hassle we didn't need at that time.
It must be awful for you to see your son in that place. It sounds like he is quite vulnerable, even if self inflicted. Have you tried talking to the Housing Dept, Adult Social Worker, etc. Is your son happy to accept help if he is offered it by somebody other than you? It might be worth contacting somewhere like Shelter who will know who too involve.

Thankyou for messages,I have ,in the past been daily to he local council and the alcohol and drug support team,for months.Just after last Christmas , a man who runs a small charity found him a flat,it was in a home run by Nacro,the workers are all ex offenders,etc,there was only supposed to be one man in the flat next door.He allowed a dealer to move in with him,they used an axe to get into my sons flat ,as they knew he had got his benefits that day.

Husband just heard my son phoning and is ranting and shouting ,saying he does not care that he is homeless, he is not coming here.He is not my sons father.
My son is staying with a couple that are friends ,he is being taken to the council near them and is going to tell them he is homeless. We live in a rural village,The elderly couple who lived next door moved away,a young working couple moved in.A single lady ,our age, lived the other side of us,she used to come in and chat for 2 hours every day but it was her brothers bungalow and the heating didn't work ,there was mould growing in the windows and she washed them every day.I took her to the local GP for a support letter for the council and she managed to get a single person bungalow in the village that she had lived in for 30 years.She phones regularly but it is not like seeing someone.

Support in this country is non-existant.Why ?