I am petrified

Good for you, Rolande . Sounds like you both had some fun and why not?
But keep your practical hat on.

I think if you meet someone for lunch and hit it off, and maybe, being two lonely people are talking two to a dozen and feel very comfortable with each other, and don’t want the afternoon to end, so it leads to dinner and presumably some alcohol was imbibed (but obviously not too much) but maybe too much for someone to drive, then if it ends up in the same bed by mutual choice and that presumably is not a total disaster because he did not rush home but stayed for brunch perhaps, then what is wrong with that at our age? Sure it would be nice to be more careful and go to a hotel, not giving away where you live, but if money is short that may not be easy. It may not be something I would do but what normal single person who’s been alone for a while doesn’t long to feel some affectionate arms around them, and if that naturally leads to more, these days there aren’t really any constraints against it unless you have a strong religious Faith. Good luck to Rolande - I hope it will lead to a long and happy relationship if that’s what she wants, if not, no regrets, it was a bit of fun to look back on with a smile. The only downside is if somewhere down the line one party gets emotionally attached and wants more from it than the other, but it should be easy enough for them to find out what the other is looking for if they haven’t already discussed it, and maybe they are both just open to seeing what happens with no pressures.

I too feel guilty about having spare bedrooms, when there are so many homeless people sleeping rough especially during the recent bitter cold weather.

PS if Rolande did in fact meet a man worth taking to bed with her she is very lucky, there are few such men ,and the risks may have been worthwhile even on such short acquaintance.

It is just too bad that a woman cannot give a man a bed for the night without being accused of naivete or running a knocking shop!

I'd be too prudent to do this for a stranger, although I do feel guilty about having a spare bed when someone is homeless on the street.

Behaviours have changed in our lifetime.
Women in younger generations than ours are now the front runners in relationships and rightly so after their forebears had to accept male domination.
I suppose that you could think Rolande's post is a wind up, but I took it at face value, and still do.
If it is a wind up, it has still made me smile.
Live and let live.

On another thread, someone was asking if 65 was ok to have given up on sex. I didn't answer there, but it amazed me. 65 is no age at all.
I don't see this as a wind-up, just a woman who wanted something she had been missing.
If she felt ok to take this man to her bed, that is her business and I wish her more enjoyment. If she has stopped posting here, it is probably because she is not believed

I felt a while back that this was someone's fantasy. Oh well it entertained us all for a few hours, didn't it?
If I'm wrong I apologise to Rolande but agree with MawBroon about it being unwise behaviour.

Even so kittylester.
It all sounded very plausible until the pub lunch lasted 24 hours - and not even the excuse of being snowed in last weekend!
I don’t know together Rolande is too embarrassed to comment further or whether her silence has other reasons, but I will stick my neck out now and say it was, at best, unwise behaviour.

Not commenting on whether th I s is a wind up or not but the op said she had cared for her dh for 7 years prior to his death.

Well said Bluebelle ☺

It's got to be a wind-up! No-one but the young, inexperienced and hormone driven would take a complete stranger home to stay overnight.
Rolande says she has been bereaved for just over a year, yet feels ready to take a man she doesn't know in to her home for sex. Really!!

By the way, coyness is not withholding information. Coyness is prudish or flirtatious .

Merriam Webster:

1 a : marked by cute, coquettish, or artful playfulness using coy tricks to attract attention
b : shrinking from contact or familiarity
"'Tis but a kiss I beg, Why art thou coy?" —William Shakespeare
2 : showing reluctance to make a definite commitment a coy response

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I didn't take my partner to bed till the third date. But I was 15 years younger then than Rolande is now. I don't think I would be so cautious now :-)

grans need love too Is this about love then? ?

I love the way Rolande met in a pub obviously taking all the internet dating advice on board, meeting in a public place for safety and then invited a complete stranger into her house wouldn’t it be prudent at any age to get to know a bit about someone and their background before opening up your home and making yourself completely vulnerable

How strange, I wonder what advise she would have given her daughter in a similar situation

I couldn't care less if Rolande had sex. I thought she was going to write something interesting about how she got on with meeting her friend.

I don't think Rolande is being coy. She said that they met Sunday evening and next came on here Monday lunch time to say he had just left.
And, of course, it is none of our business what occurred between those times and I, for one, don't wish to know...........

So is nosiness..

A man may stay overnight at a woman's house . Maybe he was drunk, or missed the last train, or they wanted to stay up until they finished planning a new political party, or he was sleepy, or etc etc.

Or maybe Rolande is too coy to say. Coy is an irritating habit.

misadventure lol my 2 wheeled days are over with now lol back to 4 wheels..

Just to be clear Rolande, he stayed overnight at your house?

Yes Oops I beg your pardon.
It was posted on 23rd Feb, before the latest 'developments'

No I don't think it's a fabrication- it seems to be an honest, straightforward story - good luck to her

I know we're not supposed to point out any wind-up posts, but ...